@chai2,
All right then.
In no partiuclar order, and I am NOT exempting myself and my sometimes/often/always what I consider upfront communication, which some others may consider at least at times, brash, or even rude.
Call me on it when that happens. Call anyone on it when that happens. Maybe we can all ******* grow up and examine the way in which something has been said.
That's another thing about a forum as opposed to other social media. What is said here is not a drive by. It's stopping and visiting.
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Perhaps temporary bans need to be enforced. Short ones, like a few days. If that person doesn't return, well that was probably a good thing.
It so often feels like the inmates are running the asylum here.
For instance, I'm brash, but I'm not hateful.
Now the following is a personal thing, but more than one of us has experienced it.
There is someone here, and I think we all know who it is if you've gotten into his crosshairs, who gets an erroneous idea from skant information, turns things that were not said into absolute facts, but can't or won't provide evidence for what he (or his son) mistakenly believe.
I have been personally hounded (it keeps coming up like a bad penny) about something that was never said. How do I know this? Because I went out of my way to actually dig back and find the encounter, and have the exact posts bookmarked.
Unfortunately, because of the timing when these accusations keep coming up, I have too much respect for the topic at hand to take it off track.
You know what I also have? This particular persons relative, who is just as bad, who has in PMs told me I'm the cause of my husbands ill health, but don't worry because he won't be alive much longer.
Well, wish granted. He's dead.
I know I'm going off, but this is an example of how some members are simply not being held accountable for their personal crazyness. Why aren't people like this sanctioned with temporary access to the site denied?
Anyway. That's a big one.
How are we to attract and maintain good members, when things like this are tolerated?
If I were banned for a few days. I would come back because I like it here. I would come back with a new awareness.