Quote:I have been married for 16+ years and have 3 kids. My wife feels similar to you're wife about sex. She doesn't want to do it, she doesn't want to talk about it. She would rather pretend that there is no problem and hope the problem goes away.
Flyboy...I may not be of any help here, and I may seem that I'm coming out of left field...but here goes...lol
Some women are just like that...I can't explain it, they shut down any desires and put the kids first. Sometimes they learn to put things aside to work on the relationship, sometimes they don't. She made need a loud wake up call....
And..some women, get hurt repeatedly...and then build up brick walls that can't be torn down.... they let their guard down long enough to let you back in, and BAM, they put the wall back up because you've hurt her again, and at some point they stop allowing you to get close...
And by no means am I suggesting that you have....
You said 8 years ago? What happened 8 years ago to make you feel this way? Whats happened in your relationship that the two of you aren't close anymore...Work? Kids? Priorities? Life in general?
You said.."She pretends there's nothing wrong?" Have you honestly tried to sit down and talk to her? Honestly about your feelings?