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Discussion about a reaction of my crush when she saw my story.

 
 
john129
 
Reply Sun 20 Oct, 2019 10:32 am
i posted this story on instagram and let her know that she only see it no one other and her reaction was ,that she deactivated her account.
((( I THINK OF YOU EVERY DAY AND I NEVER FORGOT YOU,i think what if we werent remote, BUT I ALWAYS ASK MYSELF IF THAT DREAM WOULD COME TRUE OR IT IS JUST A DREAM OR YOU DON'T THINK OF ME ANYMORE, how is it we will still friends .i write this as I AM IN A DEPRESSION EVERYDAY BECAUSE OF THAT.
only you see that )))
So friend whats your opinion about deactivating her account (not block)
i want to say that i knew her for 12 years but we are remote


 
jespah
 
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Reply Sun 20 Oct, 2019 10:39 am
@john129,
So you ignored this: https://able2know.org/topic/531087-1#post-6898123

Once again, seriously, you're practically reading tarot cards about this woman.

Talk to her.

Not a text. Not an Instagram post. Not a private message on Facebook.

Talk to her. As in, move your lips. In person is best. On the phone is a less attractive substitute but it's acceptable. Don't consider any other methods.

"Hi, Monisha (or whatever her name is), let's go get a coffee. I can be at your city next weekend. What's a good day and time for you?"

Your hints are still getting nowhere.
chai2
 
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Reply Sun 20 Oct, 2019 10:55 am
@jespah,
I dunno jes.

I think that maybe coulda been a possibility before this last thing. That was completely overboard and insane.

She deactivated her account to stop further interaction.
Stick a fork in it, she's done.

If I would her, I would consider further contact harrassment, or stalking.

john129
 
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Reply Sun 20 Oct, 2019 11:24 am
@chai2,
What do you mean that she is done?
If i stalked her (and i dont see that) , what i should do to fix it?
chai2
 
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Reply Sun 20 Oct, 2019 11:41 am
@john129,
john129 wrote:

What do you mean that she is done?
If i stalked her (and i dont see that) , what i should do to fix it?


I don't see how the words "she is done" can be any clearer.

What should you do about stalking her, even if you don't see yourself as doing it?

Stop doing the things you have already done, and leave her alone.

I'm not going to parse this out any more.
john129
 
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Reply Sun 20 Oct, 2019 12:05 pm
@jespah,
Did you see that i stalked her as MR chai said ??
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john129
 
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Reply Sun 20 Oct, 2019 12:08 pm
@chai2,
so you want me to forget her after all this years ,but what about she liked the story but she dont want to show me that she saw the story ?
i want to tell you that she dont blocked me on insta or facebook
jespah
 
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Reply Sun 20 Oct, 2019 12:16 pm
@chai2,
Very possible. Personally, I would find it odd and disturbing if some guy just kind of followed me around on social media. I was trying to give the guy the benefit of the doubt. But you may be spot on here, that she's just withdrawing, and probably upset that a place she may have seen as a sanctuary isn't one any more.*

*True Story: I enjoy lots of social media and have a relative who follows me around. This is not a person I want to hang out with. So I mute this or that, keep this relative off lists of followers I communicate with, etc. I would block them entirely but don't out of respect for my mother. If my mother wasn't in the picture, it would be a different story.

And every time this relative catches up with me online, I sigh, adjust settings as well as I can, and feel a bit violated. Again.

This person isn't nasty and they're not dangerous. I don't hate them. But they're just overbearing and we have little in common. I don't want to spend time with them beyond the minimum. At family gatherings, I do not seek out this person.

The only reason there's any sort of connection is my respect for my mother (and for this relative's mother and sibling, etc.). If this was someone I met at a party or a class or whatever, I would never give them my personal info.
john129
 
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Reply Sun 20 Oct, 2019 12:24 pm
@jespah,
So what i should do now to fix that and what if she liked it, but shy to give me a good reaction ?
glitterbag
 
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Reply Sun 20 Oct, 2019 01:22 pm
@john129,
I suspect you are making her uncomfortable.
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Sturgis
 
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Reply Sun 20 Oct, 2019 01:51 pm
@john129,
If she had liked it, even if shy, she would perhaps have just ignored it.
Leave her alone!
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chai2
 
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Reply Sun 20 Oct, 2019 02:25 pm
@john129,
john129 wrote:

what if she liked it, but shy to give me a good reaction ?


What if she thinks your the biggest creep she ever met and is too shy to tell you to F off?

I suspect even if she did, or has, you'd still pursue her, because you're obssessed.
john129
 
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Reply Sun 20 Oct, 2019 02:41 pm
@chai2,
Iam not a guilty , i just love her so i want to show my love
i dont know why you persist that i should leave her alone and i am in a depression every day because of her
glitterbag
 
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Reply Sun 20 Oct, 2019 02:46 pm
@john129,
Are you thinking that if she just learns "you love her and want to show her how much" she will suddenly seek you out and declare her love for you? It doesn't work that way, you are behaving like an obsessed person and it's frightening to me. Leave her alone and please seek some help..,. You might have a chemical imbalance.
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tsarstepan
 
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Reply Sun 20 Oct, 2019 07:05 pm
@john129,
john129 wrote:

so you want me to forget her after all this years ,but what about she liked the story but she dont want to show me that she saw the story ?
i want to tell you that she dont blocked me on insta or facebook


john129 wrote:

Iam not a guilty , i just love her so i want to show my love
i dont know why you persist that i should leave her alone and i am in a depression every day because of her

These are great examples of stalking. She clearly took the nuclear option and deactivated her account. That's a much bigger statement than blocking you. She knows you're stalking her and could possibly open a fake account to get around a typical Facebook or Instagram blocking maneuver.
chai2
 
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Reply Sun 20 Oct, 2019 07:13 pm
@tsarstepan,
tsarstepan wrote:


These are great examples of stalking. She clearly took the nuclear option and deactivated her account. That's a much bigger statement than blocking you. She knows you're stalking her and could possibly open a fake account to get around a typical Facebook or Instagram blocking maneuver.


What gets me is that he (if indeed this is for real) has no thoughts towards what her wishes/interests are, or what kind of life she's leading.

It's also typical stalker stuff to barage the victim over time (in this example "did you like my story?" Until they finally say something, anything. That's all the encouragement the guy needs to keep this up.

My guess is this woman has a good life, as good as anyone. She probably has a boyfriend, or who knows, maybe even a husband, a job and a social life.

This guy actually knows very little about her, and I hope she's able to keep it that way.

BTW, what the hell kind of "story" is this he's going on about?

What also concerns me is I get the vibe that he is blaming her for his depression, and other stuff.
tsarstepan
 
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Reply Mon 21 Oct, 2019 08:50 am
@chai2,
chai2 wrote:

What gets me is that he (if indeed this is for real) has no thoughts towards what her wishes/interests are, or what kind of life she's leading.

What scares me is how common this behavior is with many new a2k posters.

Quote:
BTW, what the hell kind of "story" is this he's going on about?

I'm assuming he's yammering about the new Facebook and Instagram story features.
Quote:
Facebook stories is a microcontent creation feature inside of Facebook, (time sensitive) this feature allows us to take a very short video or image and post. The user-generated images or short videos can be viewed twice and are only available for 24 hours.

It's Facebook plagiarizing Snapchat's business model/social media model.
john129
 
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Reply Mon 21 Oct, 2019 09:52 am
@tsarstepan,
ok guys after , i want yo tell you that she reactivated the account today
so how you say that i annoyed her ,and in same time she reactivated it ,if she is annoyed she would block me .
tsarstepan
 
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Reply Mon 21 Oct, 2019 10:01 am
@john129,
john129 wrote:

ok guys after , i want yo tell you that she reactivated the account today
so how you say that i annoyed her ,and in same time she reactivated it ,if she is annoyed she would block me .

You literally CANNOT know that. You literally CANNOT read her mind.
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john129
 
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Reply Mon 21 Oct, 2019 12:36 pm
@john129,
ok guys what i can do then < instead leaving her alone .
 

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