He wants to be alone?

No, you certainly don't have to be in a relationship. You do sound like you're fretting over this relationship, however. My point: No need to do so.

I've met too many women who take on flawed men as "projects," trying to make the man emotionally healthy and prove the power of love in his life, etc. It's pretty much always a waste of a woman's perfectly good time.

Instead of "find another," I could have said, "work on your PhD," or "finish that novel you've been writing...." or whatever, for YOURSELF and your own life. Your time would definitely be better spent.

I think it's pretty clear we agree on things here... but for the sake of the argument, here it goes...

Yes, I agree I'm fretting over this relationship, but that's ok the way I see it. I'm not making the poor guy (who I'm not so sure is flawed as you put it) my project (btw, after a 2-hour phone conversation we are back to being friends-friends which works really well).
Like I said, it's merely analyzing the things that are happening to me... does it take up all of my time? No. Not at all. Does it keep me from "working on my PhD"? No. I have priorities in life, and this relationship (or lack thereof) is *not* one of them.

Anyway, what you said about doing things for myself and my own life applies even if I were in a relationship.... especially if I were in a relationship... it's the only way to go through life... and it's the key to becoming someone interesting to be with and therefore interesting for the person next to you....

I'm a bit confused. FreeLancer is straightening BorisKitten out re this fellow having some flaw and that she is not making him a project. Gee, FreeLancer, re read your first few pages of posts. (only two weeks! What can I do?)

Boris Kitten and others were only trying to give their views upon reading your posts.

Yeah, I've been straightened on how very strong Freelancer is, and she's already told me I'm missing the point, I'm not reading her posts, etc.

Perhaps this guy is a lot more patient and understanding than we thought at first....

Sorry all, have to go to work for a few days! Best of luck to you, Freelancer.

I think this is the most sound advice given in this thread.

He would make a lousy partner, anyway (no social life and all...)