Debra_Law wrote:We talked briefly Saturday evening. He asked me how I liked the living room and I replied, "It's your house, you can do anything you want."
LOL
He was quick to state that this is "our house," that he "loves me," that he was "just trying to help out," and that "we can change anything I don't like."
Me: "Okay honey." I still felt excluded and almost weepy over the situation . . . but . . . .
Next day ---> PERIOD
ROFL
Today ---> I'm not emotional about anything. No big deal. If I want to change anything, my man will use his big strong, sexy, masculine muscles to move the furniture until his woman is satisfied.
OMG. I have just sent womanhood back to the dark ages.
But . . . no crappola. Whenever I'm feeling a little emotional about something . . . I better check the calendar.
Bingo!! Gotta love those hormones sneaking up on us, don't we? Been there and done that, cried over a trivial thing just because of a hormonal crunch that left me feeling very vulnerable.
Debra, I think you more than a lot of people know how to handle communication issues with your man. You give great advice to a lot of people a lot of the time which is why I was actually somewhat surprised to see this post coming from
you. Honestly, I was also delighted to see this post coming from you at the same time. You showed a side of yourself that we rarely see. The vulnerable side that any woman can relate to. And most men too, if they know their woman!
It wasn't about the furniture. It wasn't that your man didn't care because you know how much he does care as your later conversation about how he would change anything you wanted him to attests to.
I think you're right about the calendar. I know whenever I am feeling particularly offbeat about something, I try to recognize that and step back for a second and ask myself what is really going on inside of me. Nine out of ten times it is exactly what you realized. The calendar.
I hope all is better now and that your living room looks fabulous!