Phoenix32890 wrote:
Women like to "nest". Their homes are reflections of their personalities. You may see his rearranging as a rejection of you as a person. He might have had no such thing in mind. He was probably just trying to be helpful, but lacked the sensitivity to realize that what he was doing would upset you. No matter how you slice it, men and women ARE different, and react differently in various situations.
Sit down calmly, and have a talk with him. Tell him how you felt when he changed around your space. Then rearrange the furniture, together!
True, and I, for one, like my "nest" to be cemented in. I've lived in my house for 10 years and every stick of furniture is exactly where it was 10 years ago. I would have a stroke if my husband rearranged the furniture while I was out. Some people thrive on change, some abhor it. Some like Debra, seem to be ok with it, but need to put their own mark on it. Different strokes...
Debra, if your relationship with your man is otherwise strong he won't get bent out of shape if you tell him you appreciate his efforts but want to make some tweaks in the scheme to put your personal touch on the new arrangement. Go with what he started and modify it so that it reflects both of you.