I'm trying to feel sorry for her. It's not working.
If ever a man should be allowed to slap a woman, it's now.
Actually, it was probably when she started planning the 30 wedding party member wedding that she needed a slap.
<shaking head>
Oh dear.
People were talking about it at work yesterday. They said there were FOURTEEN bridesmaids?
Anybody who thinks they need 14 bridesmaids is:
a. Papering over the emptiness of their connection with the fella with tulle.
b. Histrionic, narcissistic or borderline personality disorder. Or all three.
IS legal action to be taken?
I hope so.
Sheeesh.
14 bridesmaids
14 groomsmen
bride
groom
gawd knows what other junior attendants
I rest my case.
Or is such overkill normal where she comes from?
Shouldn't someone change this somewhat sexist title...
It seems like it should read "If you are married to, or dating a passive aggressive girl."
Dunno as how she is PASSIVE aggressive.
I don't know as there is a name for this kind of appallingly cowardly and irresponsible and cruel behaviour.
Such overkill is not completely unheard of, by a long shot. "Fairytale" weddings are one of the many manifestations of consumerist, "I deserve it" mentality that's so damn rampant these days. Horror stories of people going deeply into debt to finance dream weddings... yadda yadda.
People are idiots.
I think the title of the thread should probably be something like "people are idiots". Yup. Or maybe "big weddings can make you even crazier".
I so don't GET big weddings....
The shift of tone in this thread from beginning to end is almost a dramatic as the story itself.
What shift?
I've been saying the same thing throughout...
You Soz, have a gift.
I just read through it and it's like cold front swept through.
You shoulda heard me muttering at the t.v. in NYC, cj. I was recommending her thyroid be tested - the towels weren't listening.
When I heard that both families were "highly respected in the community" I wondered how much of this lavish affair was the brain-child of the parents, not the bride and/or groom. Even if she was in her 30s, it might have been her parents calling the shots on the wedding. She could have taken him with her and eloped, of course.
I was wondering that too, J_B! I think that could be yet another twist.
The craziest wedding I've ever been to was completely planned and financed by the bride's mom, down to the guest list being mostly friends of the mom. The bride was fine with that. But the engine of the insanity can definitely be the parents (especially mother of the bride), not just the bride herself.
About 10 years ago I had a graduate student who's parents were French and had been married during the German occupation. Her mother was determined that her daughter was going to have the wedding she had been denied. It was the most over done affair, and the most miserable bride, I have ever witness. Not a great way to start off married life.
I'll bet the parents a a big part of the explanation for this women running away.
Yah. I was wondering why she'd run, rather than change the plans.
It could be several things, but I'm leaning toward an anorexic, deeply mother-controlled girl, whose wedding was a run away locomotive with her mama at the wheel.
(Of course, since I've already been wrong, don't bet the farm on it.)
Or, she could just be mental. Otherwise mental.
<giggling at thread title>
What a lynch mob.
The automatic assumption that men are violent and suspicious has two effects:
1) The good ones leave.
2) The bad ones stay.
The instant I hear someone starting a blame game (acting like a child),
or holding others responsible for how we feel (looking for a parent),
I have no choice. All I can do is walk out of the room because there's
no point persuading someone whose mind is already made up,
or volunteering to be a punching bag.
Wherever nice guys are invisible ... they are not welcome.
So they have to leave.
Please consider how prejudice against men
manufactures exactly what is feared.
(not in the whole world, but just in the circle of people right around us).
Why SHOULD the guy take a polygraph test?
If he's innocent and the needles jump, why take the risk of spending his life in jail?
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