@ehBeth,
Wow beth, I missed that about the days she specifically cannot do something with him because of things that she has chosen to be more important at that particular time.
Not advocating she not clean or have hobbies, but yeah, that works into it.
Personally, I'd be glad the other person has an interest in watching F1 or something like that, rather than doing a lot of other nefarious things with his time.
Years ago, some young thing asked me if I didn't mind my husband engaged in some hobby (can't even remember what it was), and why didn't I "make" him stop it to be with me. She was also needlessly concerned about whatever this activity cost.
Well, within myself, his activity was a conversation starter for us, and he was very happy and excited talking about it. I didn't care one way or the other about whatever it was, but I loved seeing him laughing and enjoying himself sharing with me.
In reality, I told the girl "Well, he could be doing that, or drinking in a titty bar, spending a lot more than he is."