Sex positive in the 21st century.

My working definition of being "sex positive" is this.

To view sexuality as a normal, healthy part of being human including the desire for sex and the pursuit of sex. I would include acceptance of sex in culture, literature and entertainment. It means accepting sexuality in social interactions, flirting dating and humor.

Society gives very mixed messages. Some sexual identities are being accepted, others are being degraded. There is both a message of sexual freedom, as well as the idea that exercising this freedom is a form of oppression. And, there is uncertainty... no one really understands the social norms for flirting or dating.

There is a clear need for social change, particularly in addressing abuse of power in the workplace. But this has been generalized into a broad generalization of sexual behaviors into a narrative of "rape culture" even though most of these have nothing to do with an imbalance of power or workplace abuse.

So I want to ask the questions directly... these are all assume that sex should be consensual and enjoyable by all involved;

- Can we have a positive view of sexuality outside of a narrow range of socially acceptable relationships with rigid constraints?

- Can we accept a large range of sexual expression including traditional roles?

- If we were going to set cultural norms of sexuality that would allow for both freedom and a sense of security, what would they be?