So what you're saying is that all the other wars to achieve national separatism were the unintentional result of peaceful negotiations breaking down, while Islam involves the intentional pursuit of war?
The way I see it, there have always been anti-separatist interests, i.e. because separatism results in competitive exploitation. So, when the Dutch separated from the Spanish or the US separated from the British, you ended up with the merchants gaining more concentrated economic power without having to serve a larger society that depended on them economically. Maybe these separations were justified because the parent empires were overburdening the rebels with economic responsibility for people who weren't doing enough for themselves, or maybe they were greedy and selfish, or maybe it was a combination.
If you look at the story of Moses leading the Israelites out of Egypt, it says that the Pharaoh was too harsh on the slaves, raising their quotas of bricks, etc. Also in the US Declaration of Independence, it says that they would be more content to suffer strain than seek independence but they felt pushed beyond their limits. Could they have kept the peace and petitioned the parent society for reforms? Probably not or maybe, depending on all sorts of nuanced political factors that really can't be defined precisely enough to answer.
If people wanted to make peace between Judaism and Islam, they could but I suspect there are terrorist interests behind the conflicts that poke and prod for the sake of drumming up conflict. Why? To justify separatism and protectionism throughout the world. When I was young, I naively thought that if the right peace negotiator came along, the conflicts of the world are just waiting to be solved. They're not, and it's not because of Islam. If anything, Islam is being scapegoated for it but it is entirely possible for Islam to coexist with other religions.
Of course, for that to happen you can't have apostates because that is fundamental hypocrisy, and I'm sure that the culture of lies and hypocrisy is strong enough that it will continue to fear, attack, and demonize Islam for threatening it; but the question is what to do with the lying and hypocrisy if we're going to protect it from Islam? Do we let it rule the world or try to cure it?