reconciliation
I tried several times to reconcile with my ex-husband, but it never worked.
If your whole being (mind, heart, and soul) is not into reconciliation, I don't see how the relationship can work. After three years of separation, there may not be anything left of the relationship to save.
You listed several reasons why a reconciliation might be favorable. But it all seems to boil down to the merits of having another warm body occupy the same house as you. Never once did you mention LOVE. You never said that you're so IN LOVE with your wife that you can't imagine a day without her.
On the contrary, you cherish your freedom.
You don't want to hurt your wife, but under the circumstances, I think it would be MORE hurtful to move her from Missouri to Texas to simply TRY when you know that you're not 100 percent committed to the plan.
Check out the marriage builders website:
http://www.marriagebuilders.com/
If you're not 100 percent committed to building the best possible marriage, then why bother to make a half-hearted attempt?
Wishing you the best as you sort through your feelings.