the wake

((((((((((Naomi)))))))))))



Heaven has a new angel.

Thank you Buttercup, that was a beautiful eulogy.

i figured it out. God needed a good cook.

Life is funny, even though deathis not!

The feelings one has vaccilate wildly when attending to an 'obligation' to a loved one - their funeral, and coming out of the experience sadder, more vulnerable; but stronger, wiser, and realizing it was ......enjoyable.

Not strangely, when you think about it, when you go to say goodbye to someone who, by their existence, has changed your life, you meet all the wonderful people who made them who they were.
You realize they were indeed the product of the many personalities, habits, traits, wisdoms, reactions, winks - the eyes, the turn of a nose, the posture and body language - the essence of those around them.
And, perhaps most important at this point in coming to terms with Cav's switch from actual, to 'virtual', you see and hear in them what has been left behind; the legacy that a gentle soul imparted to those lucky enough to have been within the ken of his 'radiation'.

[I thank them all for allowing me to help them shoulder their saddness, and share their rejoicing a life well lived!]

i find your offerring quite suitable, and would suggest altering Cav's avatar for all his legacy of posts still here enriching A2K, in order to 'personalize' them, that all - even those who never knew him can 'remember'.

[only Craven can oblige, after a suitable poll]

That was beautiful, Buttercup. I'm not sure I could have done what you have had to do with the grace you have shown. It's no wonder Cav loved you so much.

BoGoWo- Thank you for being there for all of us. As you can see from previous posts, we were with you in our thoughts. I hope that in some small way eased the weight for you and Beth.

I was thinking the same thing BoGoWo. Maybe Butrflynet can start a new thread for the poll.

Mrs. Cavfancier,

Please accept our deepest condolences. Your late husband had many Internet friends who will miss his postings. We did not have the privilege of knowing him in person, and that I'm sure is our loss.

Asherman and Natalie

Yesterday I was shocked to hear that Cav had died, so surprised I guess I didn't really understand what had happened. I'll have to do a search here to catch up on what has been going on since I have not been around much lately. I tried to read through this thread and found I just couldn't do it - I couldn't see the screen for some blurry things blocking my sight. What's this? Crying for someone I had never met? Wow! I didn't realize how much Cav and you all really mean to me when I can be affected this way by losing one of you. Cav was special - a favorite. It's taken this news to realize how fond I was of him. My heart goes out to Mrs. Cav, who, it was obvious to all of us here, is the love of his life. Heartfelt condolences just don't seem good enough for the wonderful creature we got to know and will miss terribly.

Thanks for posting the eulogy, Buttercup. It was really well done and makes a lot of sense. Life as metaphor... how difficult it is to find true understanding... plus that was my favorite from all the Star Trek episodes, too. ((((Buttercup))))

I hope that Craven is able to change Cav's avatar to Butterfly's alteration.... and that he can retire the base avatar altogether. Just a little thing, but it would be a shock to see it without Cav.

Beautiful eulogy, Buttercup, it feels very Cav. (I love that episode, too.) Thanks so much for your continuing presence and updates. I hope you feel able to relax into your grief here, not feel that you have to be strong for us -- we would be happy to be strong for you.

It must be amazing to have his voice here to tap into, and so much of it expressing his love for you in various ways.

Take care.

Thank you so much for sharing what must be very painful to you, Buttercup. A beautiful tribute, indeed, for a real mensch.

Thank you for posting your eulogy Buttercup.

I knew that the only thing I'd be able to tell people here was that I was honoured to be there as you and Mezzie and Mike spoke to Cav in the chapel.

I told Mezzie and Bo last night, that there was a moment in the chapel where I suddenly felt like Cav's A2K friends were all with us. I even took a quick peer around. It must have been the vibes everyone was sending toward Cav and Buttercup, and their friends and family.

The chapel. What a Cav experience - female rabbi, a brother reading in Japanese, Buttercup becoming Dr. Picard ... so many people who love Cav - and then the snow that Mezzie has posted about in his thread.

I took my moment with Cav at the cemetary, after the family, and reminded him how much we love him (and said as many names as I could). I had the Hoarfrost poem with me at the graveside, and left a tiny piece of it with him.

I was honoured to be included, with Bo, at Cav's parents home - to read some of Cav's words - to share with family and friends some of what Cav shared with us. I was glad to have the opportunity to thank Cav and Mezzie's parents for sharing their wonderful sons with all of us.

Truthfully, I wasn't sure what the meeting of the internet and real families would be like. But since we all loved Cav, there was simply no barrier.

As Bo and I were leaving Cav's parents home, we were stopped in the lobby by a couple who wanted to thank us for coming and sharing our Cav experience. No, thank you, Cav.

Beautiful, simply beautiful.

Thank you for representing all of us, Beth.

That was a beautiful eulogy, Mrs Cavfancier.

thanks Beth and Buttercup ...((((hugs))) to you both and all who were touched by Cav...I will truly miss his ability to "communicate"...

Thanks, ehBeth and Buttercup!!!

and Bo, had a fantastic version of the "real" of things as well.

yes, ((((BO)))) did not mean to leave him out of the hugs...