Ah. Thanks for that, Beth.
Husker size hug to Buttercup & Mezzie
Hugs right back at you (((( Buttercup ))))... and (((( Mezzie ))))
Try a 'search' using the word 'mezzie' and cav's name, gus. There's some fun stuff. Good friends as well as brothers. Whole lotta love goin' on.
Yes, hugs right back to Cav's wonderful family.
I've been wondering about Cav's parents. They say losing a child is beyond words and comprehension. {{{{Cav's parents}}}} too.
Indeed. I have lived through the loss of a partner's child - and felt overwhelmed by his grief. Loving thoughts to you folks.
One of the reasons I am so glad that Beth is going to Cav's service is because it is all so unreal.
People do not post here for a bit, and then do again - it is something we are used to.
It just feels like Cav is busy - and will be back again soon.
I wish Setanta could go with you, Beth.
It is hard, but great, going back through Cav's posts...
Beth is the best, isn't she?
Just returned from a family funeral. Shocked to hear of Cav's passing. I'm so sad. He will be in my thoughts....long live Cavfancier! :wink:
In cyberspace people don't die, they go away, drop out, post seldom, but they are still there. My first thought on reading of Cav's death was that this is some sort of violation of the TOS, which sounds flippant though it is not meant to be. I'm at a loss and truly have not felt like this since "himself" died on Abuzz.
Buttercup
Thank you so very much for keeping us informed. I'm sure you can read how very much it means to us to listen to your words.
We are all mourning with you and Cav's family.
Along with others here, I am also amazed at how connected people can become on the internet, without even having ever met.
I have lost friends and family in my time, but this is the first time I've truly mourned the passing of someone on line.
Cav was an extremely special human being who had a great love for his family and friends. He was one in a million and I will never forget him.
(((((HUGS))))) to you Buttercup, Cav's family, and everyone who cared about him.
I am stunned that Naomi would refer to Paul as "our Cav." What grace that shows. No wonder he loved her so much.
Dear Buttercup,
We cannot possibly begin to compare our loss with yours. But it is a great loss nonetheless. He was such a darling. He made us laugh, he made us think, and he made us marvel at his ability to stay above the fray. I don't believe I ever heard him say a bad thing about anyone on A2K. He was a genuinely nice human being, and there just aren't enough of those in this world. You were so lucky to have had him.
And we were lucky, too. He brought so much fun to our lives. He taught us about food...oh! did he ever teach us!...but he taught us more than that. He taught us about passion. For food. For love. For life. He never missed a chance to laugh here. I will always think of him as laughing. Even if I have a tear in my eye when I think of him.
He shouldn't have died so young. He had so much left to teach us. So many more jokes and stories to share. So many more good times. But if it is any solace, I have always believed that a life is not measured by years alone, but by the amount of love in one's life. By that measure and by our witness here, Paul's life was a great, great success.
<raising glass>
To Cav.
<clink>
I keep thinking of those 2 different photographs of cav in the gallery. The first one, looking fit & happy, proudly displaying the dish he's cooked. (It's been posted here in one of the cav threads.) The second (more recent one)taken some time later & holding another dish of great food. But the difference in his appearance was striking. The circles under his eyes, the tiredness ... He wasn't well at all then! ... Then, the occasional references to tests, adjustment of drugs ... I just wonder how long he was seriously ill, but we didn't know ..... <sigh>
{{{{{{{{{{Naomi}}}}}}}}}} Thanks for your post. I wonder if you will ever know how much it means to hear from you?
Reading the loving memories of a2kers keeps the tears streaming, but I love remembering his range of knowledge and his incredible kindness and creativity and, best of all, his love for Naomi.
Here is something for the wake--a link to Amazon's listing of Metal Machine Music. There are a few samples for listening:
http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/search-handle-form/104-6810188-9670313
After the funeral, I'll bring plenty of beer and champagne: we can share more music and poetry...and laughter.
Since I am still at loss for words, I'll second what Eva said, which is exactly how I feel.
To Cav
<clink>
oh man.
there are no words...
In cyberspace people don't die, like Acquiunk said - it is unreal. You still half expect him to start posting any time again now. I mean, he was one who made this place a pleasant, familiar, 'normal' place. Thanks to him, again, for that. Makes it hard to imagine him staying away.
And yes, the loss of a child must be unfathomable .. I saw how my grandma felt, she's lost two of her four children now ... it's just not supposed to be like that.
My heart goes out to cav's family ... and <<<big cyberhugs>>>
Thank you so much for your posts, Buttercup. You have been incredibly thoughtful & generous. You can see from our responses, how grateful we've been to be kept up to date on cav's condition ... It is a comfort to know that cav was able to receive our messages of concern & love. I felt very touched by ehBeth's post, knowing how much we mattered to him. I'm so grateful that he knew just how much he meant to us!
And hello to you, too, Mezzie. How sad for you to lose such a special brother, far too soon. You are both in my thoughts.
what eva said is just what Id say, if I had the ability and didnt have to wipe these damn tears all the time.
