I know I cant really tell much from a couple of posts but the fact that you have willingly replied to this and are saying that you are working things through with Mrs Dude seem to show there is alot of hope for you and your relationship.
You dont come across as someone who is looking to intentionally undermine/humiliate/abuse their spouse.
Their is a natural 'breaking point' in everyone.but doing it on purpose is unforgivable.
Obviously Im not trained in this subject and have no answers.
Maybe abusers see counselling/therapy as a weakness which would just add to their anger.
Could you imagine going through life being so negative and insecure towards someone you are supposed to love?It would be so emotionally draing for the abuser as well as the victim.
It would be interesting to hear from abusers.
Thanks for your insight surfdude,keep practicing.
