The husband isn't here to defend himself. All we have is a very skewed, one sided take from someone living rent free in another person's house, and complaining about not being able to wear her bathing suit out around other men.
I saw this personally happen to a friend. A very decent, hard working man I know confined to a wheelchair. Married a 20 year old. Paid her entire way including paying off her student loans. She ended up up cheating on and divorcing him.
She complained about the same things.
She was full of ****. He treated her like a queen.
These are textbook signs of cheating.
Also, how much could someone "pay for" working in a coffee shop or babysitting?
Only a woman, very likely a young attractive woman could get by in life with such limited job skills.
If respecting the person paying your bills means living in 1951, it sounds like a good place to live.