I basically don't want to act awkward be the bigger person as if it didn't affect me. I don't want to be weak.
You want to be James Bond... calm, cool, debonair. I think you are being very unrealistic... in real life we are often awkward and unsure.
This is the exact reason that we invented humor. It is an awkward situation. There is no way around that. Admit it to yourself, and go with a sense of humor. It doesn't really matter, just go with it. You don't need to be superman, I am sure that this woman understands.
Sense of humor.