patiodog wrote:We filled his bed up with his dirty pots and pans a few times (a stronger message than a sign, I think).
Oh yes, I remember that kind of thing. Not with Portuguese guy, but in one of the students houses in Holland. Happened twice - once, I helped fill a garbage bag with dishes to leave in front of one flatmate's door, and once, I found a garbage bag with my dishes in front of mine.
Yeah I'm messy, I wouldnt ever live with either of you.
The "wiping counter" thing, for example, I just dont get - I had a flatmate who got crazy annoyed about finding bread crumbs on the counter - and I tried to keep it in mind, really, but it was really something I had to consciously remind myself of, so it never became something I did automatically (and thus consistently) because internally, I'm just (still) nonplussed - annoyed about
breadcrumbs?
I lived for 11 years in such "students houses" (where people usually - what with cheap housing shortages - stay for a few years after studying - like, we had one 37-year old). And Lord dont I never miss it. Sharing kitchens, showers. Cleaning schedules. Notes on doors. The girls exasperated by dirty dishes, undone chores, inconsiderate late night loudness; the boys by nagging and notes about the seemingly most inane or neurotic things. Exceptions to the rule of course - one flat we had a black guy who once became so annoyed with the mess and stuff that he turned his stereo to ten, went out, locked his door, and didnt come back till evening (well, happened before my time). But overall, yeah - the guys are dirty and loud and careless ... the girls are anal and worked up about something all the time ... which they wont, of course, say out anything straight about until they are furious, instead just giving hints ... which the guys wouldnt get ... which the girls would complain about incessantly - to
others...
I have plenty of good memories of students houses too, long evenings listening to Tom Waits and talking, outrageous parties where we decorated the whole house in "underwater" theme, an impromptu "wedding" on the balcony - me with a hat she with a sheet - coming home late to find my Antillean flatmate cooking with friends hanging out in the kitchen, chilling, hanging a plastic christmas tree upside down on the ceiling, always somebody there to chat with, greeting my christian flatmate in the morning when he went out bright & early and i was still awake having made home-made bread..
But yeah, after five or six years it all wore pretty thin.