Is my partner cheating?

Unless you have more than this, (just talking on the phone) you cant be sure of anything. One thing for sure, whatever is distracting him so much (gambling? Porn? Work? Another woman? Stock market? Sports pool?) his irritability and time spent on this is affecting your marriage.

Tell him you are concerned and need to talk about what is going on. Go to counseling alone if he won't go with you.

You can't be sure. If you don't believe him you have to look in his phone. If you do that you have violated his trust. If you don't have trust and communication you don't have much of a marriage. If you suspect something is wrong you have to talk to him.

Ummm...yeah.."talk" to him. As if he is going to tell the truth.

You know, talk doesn't mean "Do you have a girlfriend?" I mean really open a line of communication. One that goes a little deeper than the one they have now. The cheating, if there is any is a symptom of a problem in the marriage.

I stumbled upon my partners phone bill, I was in shock at the amount of hours he spends talking to his female friend, 15 years his junior.. always in the early hours of the morning .... I tried to tell him its hm that makes it suspissous, with his lies.... when i ask if he has heard from her, he was saying no, and still is.... I lost all respect for him, now I have told him its over, he wont stop his secret calls and wont commit to me or move in.... You are better knowing as I feel I was made out to be a fool

You are not alone. I experienced the same thing. "I swear on my mother's GRAVE I never slept with her!" Blah, blah, blah. It is enough to make you sick. I kicked him out and life has been good ever since..

I have yet to see my Husband's phone. I used to have the pin. Even answer if he couldn't get to it. The past 2 years he has kept it on him. I even suspect he has cheated on me with his secretary. Yet, she still works for him. I doubt he will tell the truth. I have been in this hopeless cycle for a year now. He is fully evolved in our marriage again. Swears there is nothing to see. Then let me see the phone. Keep us posted.

No , he will not tell the truth. Swears. That word actually makes me laugh these days when I recall how much I heard it. I am very close friend with one of the women my ex-boyfriend was cheating with. (She did not know he was involved). The stories we have traded would make an award winning soap opera. He's a pathetic, weak, cowardly rat. Like most of them.