@layman,
No, you have it wrong.
Are you interested in learning or just in fighting? This is a key point... if you can get this than it will help you understand a lot more. If you are just interested in fighting that you are wasting both of our time.
If you are interested in learning, then lets focus on this... because it is key.
All motion is defined based on a reference point. Galileo understood this.
Without a reference point, motion doesn't have any meaning. It isn't that it can't be "determined" it is that it is undefined.
The examples of the boat and the train assume a reference point... they all assume that the Earth is motionless for the sake of the examples and so the Earth acts as a frame of reference. That might be why these examples are confusing to you.
Again, we are not talking about Special Relativity or General Relativity. This is Galilean relativity that is at the core of classical physics. This is taught in high school and has been well understood by Physics students for the past 500 years.
I can walk you through a couple of examples if you think it would be useful. If you are interested in fighting (rather than learning) they probably won't be very useful since you won't be able to have the change in mindset to understand them.