Fri 16 Jun, 2017 01:09 pm
For example: let's say there is a girl/guy that you look up to and you even look/resemble them physically, would you think is bad to copy there style or the way they look, just because their beautiful/smart and out of pure admiration or do you considered it obsessive.
I have a friend who this happen to, she had a long distance relationship with a very nice guy, but then they grew apart and like 4 years after she checked his profile to see what he was up to and came to see that this he had a new girlfriend, she even showed me the pictures and indeed she was gorgeous , I even found it funny cause my friend and the guys girlfriend had a resemblence (they looked alike-not exactly the same but they did) so I told her and she was like really and I said ''yeah'' so from that moment on I felt she was trying to look like the guys new girlfriend(not because she still had feelings for him or anything,but because the girl was very beautiful) ,not in a weird way or anything,but maybe she did get a little obsessed after I told her that they both looked alot alike. I don't know. how do you see this?
Google John Derek, Linda Evans, and Bo Derek. The second wife (third?) looks a LOT like the first. (second?).
Linda Evans was third, Bo Derek was fourth and last. Ursula Andrews, wife number two also had that look, shared by Evans and Derek
I view this that in likelihood that healthy level of respect that she should have for herself is missing, it is being referred to a second party, and from here that the gap is attempting to being closed by shadowing that second party. This in my view is the most plausible psychology. The remedy is to have somebody sincere make a fuss of her for her.
Unless I misunderstood, the question seemed to be:
" After 4 years apart, when a woman then looks up her ex and sees a photo of his new girlfriend,
is it obsessive for that woman to try to look like her ex's new girlfriend?"
I'd say it's very unhealthy.
Unusual/weird, yes, but I would n`t apply the term creepy to circumstances of a person which are in the absence of their actual presence. I do n`t consider it possible for someone to be experienced as creepy when they are not being directly experienced, any more than it would ghostly.
She most definitely suffers from low self esteem - Her ex found her better so she must indeed be her superior in every single last way. She requires both compassion and support. It`s not so much that it is unhealthy as she is unhealthy.