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I fear my boyfriend is bisexual. What are your thoughts?

 
 
hunyul1
 
Reply Wed 8 Feb, 2017 10:46 pm
Boyfriend mentioned he watches straight, male and woman porn however lesbian doesn't do anything for him. I believe I am a fairly non judgemental girlfriend. My boyfriend loves his own ass and loves me to spank/squeeze it during sex which I like to do as anything that turns him on, turns me on. As a female however this is a bit of a blow to my femininty as no man should pay more attention to his own ass than a girl. He is constantly hard around me however. Whilst yes, he does compliment mine, generally speaking the attention is focused on his. Excuse me if I sound weird myself however I find it odd that my boyfriend loves me to give him hand/head and even loves to masturbate when he is in doggy position. Basically on knees, leaning forward with ass in the air. He loves me to go from behind. He also loves squatting which he finds pleasurable. He finds it easiest to cum in those positions and of course during sex which is usually him on top but finds it hard to cum laying down on his back if I give him hand/head. He has told me that masturbating in other positions is not effective and if that he just squats down, he cums very quickly. I've seen it before and he even flexes his feet so he's literally just balancing on his toes. When I have asked before, he tries to give me unreasonable explanations such as "gravity" which makes me even more puzzled. The issue is that it is interfering with our sex life. When we first met, he couldn't cum. It was only till after many tries of doing everything to please him, that he could cum inside yet he was still somewhat squatting, just penetrating this time. It was very frustrating as sometimes I would give him oral for 40 minutes or so, obviously enjoying it but no ejaculation. He put it down to masturbation, porn and performance anxiety. It was only one night where he was able to cum, that was inside me and somewhat squatting. I have mentioned to him that in order for him to be able to cum and not be desensitised, he needs to slowly try other positions masturbating so his body also gets used to it. He has agreed to do this yet still mentions he has tried other positions however it is not that effective. He believes just refraining from masturbation itself will help, yet I disagree because even if he does that like he has done other times, he still will only be able to ejaculate in me in particular positions such as missionary where he is somewhat still "squatting" He usually squats to masturbate, on tippy toes and somewhat bounces near the end of an orgasm. I feel somewhat better as the other night he mentioned that he masturbated to photos of me, in a different position and was able to cum.

The other night we were on the phone and I asked him to refresh my memory about a gay story he had whilst away on holiday that he told me months ago about a gay male hitting on him. He first told me he ignored him yet last night he said something different. He told me that the gay man at the party was telling my boyfriend he gave off a bi sexual vibe and asked if he's ever been with men and that it is only a matter of time. Again, I asked if he IS bisexual and he said "no, end of story" I told him that I would be disappointed if I found out he was lying. He said I will never find out as he isn't bisexual. He mentioned I could ask his friends and that they would laugh at it as they believe he is homophobic. We then were speaking about different masturbating techniques and I said to search on google as plenty of advice and different forms will come up, he mentioned he could look at male solo's. I asked why he would do that as it sounded homosexual and he said "yes actually that does sound very wrong. Just to be able to see how it's properly done" Then last night, I asked him again and it caused an argument, he said he feels offended.

Every time since I have brought this to his attention, he plays with the idea and makes it into a joke. For example, calling me his lover boy, touching himself and then saying to me "Ohhh that's so gay isn't it?" Basically making me think he is gay and joking about it. I somewhat laugh about it and then I asked if he will continue to joke about it and he said "yes because you actually thought I was into men"

It's not just the porn that has made me suspicious. For example last night (I assume he's just playing with me) we were talking about food and I meant to say I was hungry, however I accidentally said "Haha now I'm buddy" and he said "Hehehe buddy"
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hunyul1
 
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Reply Wed 8 Feb, 2017 11:33 pm
@hunyul1,
He keeps saying that whenever I assume he's gay, ask his friends as they believe he is homophobic.
TomTomBinks
 
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Reply Wed 8 Feb, 2017 11:52 pm
@hunyul1,
He may be bisexual or have bisexual leanings or he may not. One way or the other you have made him defensive about it with your "suspicion" and obvious disapproval.
hunyul1
 
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Reply Wed 8 Feb, 2017 11:54 pm
@TomTomBinks,
Do you believe he is bisexual though, after reading this? I understand you do not know this person.
TomTomBinks
 
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Reply Wed 8 Feb, 2017 11:58 pm
@hunyul1,
I honestly don't know. He is uncomfortable with the idea of bi and homosexuality. You say his friends would describe him as a homophobe. Some homophobes are that way because they fear what they suspect is inside them.
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PUNKEY
 
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Reply Thu 9 Feb, 2017 07:32 am
Geez- when did your lovemaking become a gymnastics competition?

No wonder there's performance anxiety on both of your parts.

You really are focused on him and his needs. How has it been for you?
hunyul1
 
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Reply Thu 9 Feb, 2017 08:05 am
@PUNKEY,
He has never been able to make me cum because he never exactly tries with his own effort. He went down to give me oral once yet made a rude remark about the taste therefore it caused an argument. He apologised and mentioned it's because he's inexperienced and immature. Ever since then though he tells me that he wants to give me oral and please me. I will be seeing him in a few weeks so I will see how things go. He's very good in regards to kissing, yet focusing on me for foreplay, he's fairly "selfish"
PUNKEY
 
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Reply Thu 9 Feb, 2017 09:04 am
@hunyul1,
Tell him to watch some videos on how to make love to a woman.

How old is this fella, anyways?

hunyul1
 
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Reply Thu 9 Feb, 2017 10:11 am
@PUNKEY,
23.
PUNKEY
 
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Reply Fri 10 Feb, 2017 06:29 pm
@hunyul1,
23?

Nuf said.

He's still a kid whacking off under the covers.

Watch some videos together that show real people making love.
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Iouman
 
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Reply Mon 13 Feb, 2017 04:56 pm
@hunyul1,
He's bisexual whether he admits it or not. You might have to consider "Sharing" him with a man at some point, because its clear despite your best efforts, you're not able to satisfy him. (That's on him, not you). You might need to invite a bisexual friend over, have a few drinks and see what happens. At the very least, you'll have some information that will allow you to make some long term decisions.
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BaseChakraLightWorkr
 
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Reply Tue 11 Apr, 2017 03:05 am
@hunyul1,
Hi Hunyul, I am not a member on here but found your post here rather synchronistically. So much to say, but I'll cut down most of it to stay brief. I'd like to ask what nationality you are and where you live if I may. Beyond that it feels to me from what you said and the way you described it that 1. he is bisexual 2. he knows and keeps it a secret because 3. he doesn't trust you because he feels you would judge him, not accept him, not support him. That makes him feel frustrated, he doesn't have the courage to be himself BECAUSE of you non-acceptence and CONDITIONAL love. A great part in this is his age which ties into a lot of things. If you love him you will accept him, try to understand him, support him, encourage him and be there for him no matter what, even help him uncover the scope of his "otherness". I would love to help more and I feel I could because of all the things I won't say right now to stay brief. A note, I may be all wrong, maybe he's not bi. I would love to help more, both of you could use more.
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Lash
 
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Reply Tue 11 Apr, 2017 11:23 am
Threesome!! Why are these awesome situations wasted on the wrong people?
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Mark Steven
 
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Reply Mon 4 Dec, 2017 12:22 pm
@hunyul1,
Wow....I like my wife to do the exact same things to me. Love it when she jerks me off from behind. She even fingered me once and an X-GF of mine pegged me with a strap on. I've been told many times I have an "anal fixation."

I'm very much bi sexual though. My wife has no idea and would be shocked. Though I think if she was honest with herself, she would like it. She's had bi-sexual experiences herself.
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back1968
 
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Reply Mon 8 Oct, 2018 06:51 am
If he is the typical male he is probably masturbating twice a day and still open for having sex with you when you want. Likely he watches a lot of porn and has seen everything. Most all of it will peak a man's interest if he watches it enough.

The key is, how strong is your relationship. How much do you want to be with him in the long run. If you truly love each other, you should be able to talk through it. If he is not fully open, once in the bedroom play the dominant role and target his butt with your finger, then more fingers and then dildo and talk dirty to him about taking it and see how he responds. Maybe try a strapon.

It is quite possible he is bisexual or just curious or just a phase. You won't know until you probe into that area, his walls come down and you start to communicate for real.
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Theamos
 
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Reply Tue 9 Oct, 2018 03:59 pm
He is most likely still in denial. I had a bf that I was suspicious of and he would not tell me until I told him I didn’t care
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simrangoyal
 
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Reply Fri 7 Dec, 2018 03:07 am
@hunyul1,
suspicious, that he is still your BF
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