I discovered my fiances secret porn life----eeeek

I am saying that you are making too much out of too little.

Any woman who is going to be bothered by a guy liking porn...or wacking off...is in for a long, hard life...because it is going to happen. And if this guy...at this stage of his life...needs lots and lots of orgasms...this is the way it is going to happen.

At some point...the need will diminish...but until them...GET OVER IT...is the best medicine. The only other two options...(and you will see after reading them why I say this is the best medicine)...are:

a) Break the relationship and hope to find the 1 out of a million oddball who is simply not into sex (the only kind who will not enjoy porn or mastrubating)...or...

b) Take over the function of the porn...and offer weird, wild sex four or five times every day.

WHAT'S THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN SEX ADDICTION AND A HIGH SEX DRIVE?

I have heard this question on almost every national talk show or radio show I have been on over the years. A person with a high sex drive is satisfied with sex. It's not about a fix for something; when their partner says "NO" it doesn't make them go off the handle thinking their partner is totally rejecting them and have to leave the house or act out in some other way. If you can relate to this the chances are there may be an addiction issue.

CAN YOU BE ADDICTED TO MASTURBATION?

Yes, this is by far the most common sex addiction that I have treated in working with sex addiction. This usually is the first sexual behavior many of us will have on a repeated basis. This is usually where the sexual compulsion starts with sex addicts and this behavior, regardless of other acquired behaviors, usually stays active.

WHAT ROLE DOES PORNOGRAPHY PLAY IN SEX ADDICTION?

Pornography for many sex addicts combined with regular masturbation is the cornerstone for most sex addicts. Many sex addicts have great difficulty getting sober from this combination of behavior. The pornography with fantasy creates an unreal world that the sex addict visits throughout their adolescence and other developmental stages and creates an object relationship that conditions their emotional and sexual self to depend upon these objects and fantasies to meet their emotional and sexual needs hundreds of times before having sex with a real person.

CAN SOMEONE BE A SEX ADDICT AND NOT BE SEXUAL WITH THEIR SPOUSE OR COMMITTED RELATIONSHIP?

YES! We call this later stage of sex addiction, sexual anorexia. In this stage of sex addiction, the addict prefers the fantasy world and fantasy sex with themselves or others instead of relational sex with their spouse or partner. The addict/anorexic avoids relational sex and hence this couple has sex infrequently and often at the partners request not the addict/anorexics.

Frank Apisa wrote:

I am saying that you are making too much out of too little.

Any woman who is going to be bothered by a guy liking porn...or wacking off...is in for a long, hard life...because it is going to happen. And if this guy...at this stage of his life...needs lots and lots of orgasms...this is the way it is going to happen.

At some point...the need will diminish...but until them...GET OVER IT...is the best medicine. The only other two options...(and you will see after reading them why I say this is the best medicine)...are:

a) Break the relationship and hope to find the 1 out of a million oddball who is simply not into sex (the only kind who will not enjoy porn or mastrubating)...or...

b) Take over the function of the porn...and offer weird, wild sex four or five times every day.

Huh? You're not describing the average man who is "into sex." I don't believe that 999,999 men out of a million men must have weird, wild sex four or five times a day--if not with a woman, then by themselves through masturbation with the assistance of porn.

Bi-Polar Bear wrote:

eoe wrote:

If he finds some decent porn, let me know. It's all geared towards and made for men and only features straight on f****** and cum shots. Women, well, I can only speak for myself but, I prefer the softer stuff. WITH ATTRACTIVE PEOPLE.

When yall find some of that, you will let us know, right?

Any suggestions folks?

And please, dont tell Bear, Gus, Kicky or Slappy about this thread. It will turn to smut faster than you can say...smut.

I have already posted on this thread thank you and was not smutty at all....you on the other hand are soliciting for porn that deviates from regular intercourse....shame on you......

busted...

Debra_Law wrote:

Frank Apisa wrote:

I am saying that you are making too much out of too little.

Any woman who is going to be bothered by a guy liking porn...or wacking off...is in for a long, hard life...because it is going to happen. And if this guy...at this stage of his life...needs lots and lots of orgasms...this is the way it is going to happen.

At some point...the need will diminish...but until them...GET OVER IT...is the best medicine. The only other two options...(and you will see after reading them why I say this is the best medicine)...are:

a) Break the relationship and hope to find the 1 out of a million oddball who is simply not into sex (the only kind who will not enjoy porn or mastrubating)...or...

b) Take over the function of the porn...and offer weird, wild sex four or five times every day.

Huh? You're not describing the average man who is "into sex." I don't believe that 999,999 men out of a million men must have weird, wild sex four or five times a day--if not with a woman, then by themselves through masturbation with the assistance of porn.

Re-read what I actually wrote...and try to deal with that. If you want to create a strawman and argue against it...no problem. But don't pretend that you are arguing against me when you are doing it.

Re-read what I actually wrote.

At some point...the need will diminish...but until them...GET OVER IT...is the best medicine. The only other two options...(and you will see after reading them why I say this is the best medicine)...are:

a) Break the relationship and hope to find the 1 out of a million oddball who is simply not into sex (the only kind who will not enjoy porn or mastrubating)...or...

b) Take over the function of the porn...and offer weird, wild sex four or five times every day.

Huh? You're not describing the average man who is "into sex." I don't believe that 999,999 men out of a million men must have weird, wild sex four or five times a day--if not with a woman, then by themselves through masturbation with the assistance of porn.

Huh? You're not describing the average man who is "into sex." I don't believe that 999,999 men out of a million men must have weird, wild sex four or five times a day--if not with a woman, then by themselves through masturbation with the assistance of porn.