My boyfriend doesn't want to have sex with me and would rather watch porn.

Amen sista.

Honestly though, it would help you both out if you didn't hide your feelings. Just ask him. It wouldn't hurt to try, and if he loves you, he'll be honest.

It's going to become a far bigger headache if he finds out you have been checking his phone behind his back. It implies a lack of trust at the very least.

You will probably not like the consequences very much if you are caught. And this trust issue implies deeper problems with your relationship than you are letting on.

Talk to him now. Talk about how this all makes you feel and go to couples counseling if you feel it would help (or go alone if he won't go). Counseling is a far healthier solution than keeping this stuff locked away inside you.

And consider cutting your losses, too. You are not married; it is less of a financial headache if nothing else. Consider that the inertia in not wanting to leave a relationship can only get worse over time. Weigh it - and that can mean the old exercise of taking a sheet of paper, drawing a vertical line down the middle and listing pros on one side and cons on the other.

I'm still trying to find out what kind of butter to use. Either way, that idea makes me think of Last Tango in Paris. If that's the case then I never want a girlfriend.

Buttering someone up means complimenting them a lot and making them feel special.

Ohhhhhh......

Is it better if you at least manage to use the word butter at least one or twice in those compliments?

Or should that be left completely out, like that would be too obvious?

Just tell her how nice and pretty she is, or use a trait that you like about her and compliment her on it. If you want, call her sexy. I don't know a girl who doesn't want to know that she's attractive. I always told my ex she was cute and nice and sexy and it made her blush a lot and melt.

If that's your attitude, it's just as well you don't want one.

Yeah well, that scene was really violent and awful to the woman, and if that's how I have to treat a girlfriend I'll just be a monk and live with the dalai lama.

What? No, don't be mean to girlfriend, that's not good.

Yeah I know. I think roger is trying to influence me in a negative way.

I'm not going to listen to him though.

Trust me, Bud. My advice is usually spot on.

I can see how you wouldn't exactly be describe as a chick magnet, all right. Still, if you would learn how to talk to them, and show a little respect. . . .

I don't think looks count for a lot if you've got the right personality. I mean, look at Sid Vicious and Nancy. Or Donald and Melania. He has to have some kind of great personality to attract someone like her. She's pretty AND really smart.

Okay, say you're a billionaire. Are you also able to show respect and sensitivity like Donald Trump? Work on it.

Ok, I'll say it.

You're a billionaire.

Lol

Chai's just making fun of me.

Here's an important for all you confused young fellers: http://able2know.org/topic/70322-1 Read it and heed it.

I'd say I have enough confidence to be secure with myself. I was confident around my ex, she brought out a better me and I was comfortable with being awkward in front of her because she didn't care.