@Leadfoot,
"Who" is a very powerful illusion...(Illusions are real in their own way...illusions are real illusions, phenomena that is, just like any other phenomena, their specificity is that they don't refer to what we guess they do, but they do not refer to nothingness)
...in the end, is not "who" that we love, it is what ORDER has "materialize" over the years in the entity we call a "person"...
...this what refers to what actions, what "thing" is being there, with "us"...and Reason in its minimalistic explanation is just the Order of things. We love the order of what we got that we needed... need is a necessary condition to Love. "God" does not need...nevertheless it connects! "It" doesn't love, but it is the basis, the ground, for Love to exist...
"We" are all part of a connectome. The thing itself as a whole is a mathematical structure on the order of phenomena that is lifeless, motionless, and pure!