my boyfriend cheated on me,it's been 6 months

How long have you two had a relationship?

2 years last September but when he cheated we were just around a year and 3months? Well, I know I had my fair share of mistakes but whenever I opened up this cheating incident to him it feels like he was blaming me why he did it. :/

It sounds like you two were not in a good place at the time.

He sounds like he wants it to work with you now.

Either decide to get over or through this or let him go. This is making both of you miserable.

Yes, I know that. but I find it hard to believe in him. I found out that they were texting last January, I confronted him about it. He denied it but of course, later I was still able to prove it. I just can't understand, if he didn't really mean it.. then, why was it that after that incident, he didn't stop? He still continued it until February

Is understanding it going to change anything?

What can he do to make you forgive him?

You're never going to forget it - are you willing to forgive it?

I don't know I am trying to understand his reasons but I can't bring myself to forgive him.

Actually, to be honest I am the type who wants to get even with someone who has offended or hurt me..

I am not really sure :/

If you don't think you are going to be able to forgive him, you may have to accept that this is not going to be a long-term relationship.

Accept that it's temporary, accept that it is not going to be exclusive, have fun while you're together and move on when you meet a guy who is more suitable for you.

I was actually suggesting that it is much better if we separate ways. He's the one who won't let go. He keeps on telling me that he will not do it again and I should trust him. I am torn, really. If I let go of all the pain, the anger, the bitterness and the hatred then I won't be able to feel anything at all. Not even love

Either way it goes you have to let go of the negative feelings.

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Ask yourself these questions ... and answer them honestly.

Does it benefit me when I am angry/bitter, full of pain and hatred?


Does it benefit him when I am angry/bitter, full of pain and hatred?


Does it benefit anyone when I am angry/bitter, full of pain and hatred?