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I suppose i have been a bit of a mug.
I don't know about your world, Roystonius, but I sure expect my friends to treat me with more respect.
Getting over an illicit relationship
I met up with her today at a pub, everything was ok but i had to leave at a certain time. 20 mins before we were going to leave her other half rang up saying that he's approaching the place where she said she was going to be. But she wasn't, she was at a pub with me. (I said to her before i even set off to meet her that if she'd prefer to just do her own thing on her own then thats fine by me, but we arranged to meet.) We dashed up to her meeting place and i went my own way and she her own. Later on she sent me an email saying that she was sorry about that.
Now, am i reading too much into this or does she still think me and her are doing stuff we arent? we didnt have any sort of physical contact at all. If we are just mates then why is she worried what he'd think? Why cant she tell him she was with a mate for a couple of hours?
She must respect me if shes doing this sort of thing.
It's very odd
You can't actually think she's going to tell him she is friends with a guy she cheated on him with. I know he doesn't know she cheated, but her knowing is enough, don't you think?
Her pretending not to be with you is NOT respecting you. It's covering her own can - in a relationship that she apparently wants to preserve more than anything she does with you.
getting over an illicit relationship
She sent me an email tonight saying sorry bout her having to dash off.
When we are both sober we are just like any normal mates. It's when we start drinking that stuff happens. I just have to be strong enough to withstand anything she might try on dont I?
getting over an illicit relationship
What are the good things i can get out of this scenario????
Hmm.
Figuring out boundaries, maybe? What you put up with from friends? What you require from lovers? Not allowing this kind of neither this-nor-that relationship in the future -- 'cause it plain doesn't work?
getting over an illicit relationship
when alls said and done. I still cant just forget her though. Despite what we did we can always remain mates surely.
getting over an illicit relationship
When i say mates i MEAN mates too.
A few people say i say 'mates' in case she changes her mind with who shes with now! Not true!!
Getting over an illicit relationship
Anybody still out there?
People Are Still Out Here......
I have just been reading this thread, and from it, I get that you are a young man who is very much infatuated with a young woman who is having her cake and eating it, too. It really hurts when feelings are not reciprocated in the way that you would like, and you may think it is possible to remain friends with her, but I seriously doubt it.
Chalk this one up to experience, move on with your life, and find someone who wants you for you. I have been down this road, and it hurts like hell, but it was necessary for me to grow and to see that all people are not looking for the same things. People are different, and can detach themselves from getting involved in anything too serious, unless of course, it is to their advantage.
Move on young man and be happy.
getting over an illicit relationship
Thats pretty much it what you said at 1st but its not infatuation, it's more than that. I'm just going to take it as it comes for now and see what happens. We would of been doing the 'business' had i had not had too much to drink on Thursday night! might be seeing her tomorrow. Might.
getting over an illicit relationship
What i'm doing now is the 1st time i've ever done it, i cant do it, its not in my genes,i'm a decent enough guy i know i should stop, but i cant.
Getting over an illicit relationship
She's going away for a couple of weeks tomorrow, perhaps this is a blessing in disguise?? Yesterday (Thursday) she said nothing would happen at the start of the night at the end of the night 'things' did happen. I said that what happens tonight shouldn't be repeated again when she comes back off holiday but i think they might, I think i do still love her. these next 2 weeks are going to be slow and labourous without her, even though i would only be missing seeing her twice in the fort-night.
Damn IT!
