Please stop you're embarassing the gender.
Getting over an illicit relationship
Well, she is still speaking to me. I'm not going to stop being her friend as i say if i can help it. There's always a chance to remain friends. I know i wont be able to look at her in the same light but i'll give it a try. It is possible to remain friends. She would like that i'm sure of it. I am going to look for another lass though.
Good idea. The sooner you start seeing someone else, the faster your feelings for her will pass.
Getting over an illicit relationship
Been busy lately thats why i havent been here. Thursday night went fine for the most part of the night. No proper contact with her. Then we went dancing at this night club and 'Dirty Dancing' came on (I've had the time of my life) track. we danced close to each other and eventually we danced hand in hand. After it had closed we went to have a chat about things in general. I still hadn't tried anything with her at this point even though we were just about drunk. I remember splurting 1 comment out asking her 'How do you think i feel about you?' She thought i still loved her...... I dont know if i do. Thats the emotion i feel for her the most without it actually being that specific 1 if you follow? Anyway, we eventually got in the cab. And somehow, she started coming towards me in the taxi obviously wanting a kiss. I pulled my head away at 1st, but the 2nd time she came at me i....couldn't resist, then she started to touch me down there. But thats as far as it went. I wanted to do her there and then just out of lust / drunkiness. She asked me to text her today. I did but i didnt mention what happened in the taxi, She said that she was at work since before noon (we didn't get home until 4.30am) I've text her asking to see her over the weekend if poss but she hasnt replied. I hope we do. I'm just wanting to know from you guys. Was she doing the stuff in the taxi because she was drunk or some other reason??
Because she likes the attention. She likes the power. She likes knowing she has a hold over you. If she feels that hold weakening, she'll do what she can to re-establish it. Once you show that you're a helpless puppy dog again and that she doesn't need to put any particular effort into keeping you on a short leash, she'll start ignoring you again.
-sigh-
If you want to just go with the flow and get what you can out of it, fine. But this is the kind of thing that can go on for a long time and really mess you up.
Quote:She came onto me in the taxi home. And from then for a few weeks we did all the sex stuff together even though she had a boyfriend for 4 years+. She then tore my soul out by a text saying that she wants us to be just mates again.
Does this look familiar from less than a week ago?
She's very good at this.
Best of luck, Roystonius.
Getting over an illicit relationship
Perhaps she does like the attention, she has the best of both worlds, she will always (probably) go home to him and she can have fun with me. Having her cake and eating it. I suppose in some way i'm a bit wary of being single again, thats maybe why i'm only trying 99.9% to get over her not 100%. Sometimes when we're dancing i'll say a nice lass walking in to the room and she'll see i'm looking at her and she'll make a move towards her with the intent of fixing me and her up!!! I REALLY don't think she's bluffing either but i stop her regardless as I'm there with her, not to pull. I'm not sure if i'm going with the flow either, I'm not 1 for getting what i can out of her then kicking her to the curb. I'd rather remain 'flirty friends' (not what we're doing now) forever instead of a shag and forget that she ever existed. The sooner i find another girl to get together with the sooner I'll forget this 1... i suppose??
getting over an illicit relationship
I still dont know what to do with her,
she seems to want to keep us as just mates.
No, she seems to want a puppydog.
Do you want to BE a puppydog?
getting over an illicit relationship
Silly question,
But. define puppy dog?
You mean if sheasks me to jump i say how far
And i come running to her when she wants it?
What do you think of a woman who does this to me?
That she's not worth hanging around with, that she treats you like a toy and doesn't care about your feelings.
Hey, you wanted the truth.
Are you a helpless pawn in the clutches of a woman of supernaturally powerful sexual attraction?
This is another way of saying, "puppydog".
Or did the devil make you do it?
Are you in charge of your own life?
getting over an illicit relationship
I dont see why i should have to jump through hoops with her anyway.
I'm not obsessed with her. I've had other girls since her.. just haven't told her about them. Should i?
Or would that seem a little out of order?
Why does it matter to you what this woman thinks? She seems to have made it clear that what you think doesn't matter much to her.
getting over an illicit relationship
So, what do you think of this woman?
And, finally what SHOULD i do?
what COULD I do?
getting over an illicit relationship
And just forget Everything about her?? even her friendship????
Yes, because anyone who treats you like that is no friend of yours.
getting over an illicit relationship
sorry jespah,
cant just up and leave.
As I've said (and it is possible) I'll remain friends with her. she hasnt given me any reason not to think we cant remain great mates.
I'll get used to not being with her in that way i'm sure.
Until then I'm looking for other lasses but i could go with the flow for now surely????????
Roystonius, are you serious that you believe this person has treated you as a good friend should be treated?
