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Does she actually want to hang out with me?

 
 
Reply Thu 9 Jun, 2016 08:56 am
I've been txting and snapchatting a girl for about two months now. We go to college together and are now home for the summer. We live a half hour apart and have talked about seeing each other while we are home from college. She has mentioned multiple times that I should come visit her and hangout with her.

Our txts and snapchats have always been very flirty and causal. There would be some form of communication either over txt or snapchat every day. She starts the communication 75% of the time I would say.

More background, I first met her last fall semester when she told a friend of mine to set us up. We hungout a few times and only made out. We enjoyed each other's company, but unfortunately she went to study abroad. We continued to snapchat and txt while she was abroad. She has increased the dialogue since she got home. Unfortunately I haven't seen her since last fall semester.

Early this week I asked if she wanted to go out this weekend. She responded saying yes and that she was excited, but then after a few more messages back and forth, she didn't respond. Three hours later after my double txt, she said she could go Friday. I found this strange because in the past she never doesn't respond. I'm usually the one to end the txt conversation.
The next day I texted her late afternoon saying Friday works great for me. She responded and after a few more messages, she again didn't respond to one of my txts.

Since then, she hasn't sent me any snaps or had any other form of communication since I asked her to hang out. I find this very strange bc usually we snapchat a few times each day.

My question is, is she just playing hard to get and doing a dumb txting game thing bc she likes me? Or is she turned off that I asked her out? A female perspective would be helpful.
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sozobe
 
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Reply Thu 9 Jun, 2016 09:21 am
@harveyfrancis,
I really doubt she's doing a "hard to get" game.

I'd guess it's more along the lines of, she likes you fine and enjoys texting/ snap chatting, but you're probably not the only one and there may be other people she's texting and snap chatting and low-key flirting with.

So now that things have become more pointed she may be reassessing a bit. Does she want to have a summer romance with someone nearby but not actually right there? Does she want something more serious? Is there someone else (either currently or potentially)?

Or, she may just be nervous! Texting/ snapchatting was easy and low-risk but actually seeing you takes things into another category and maybe she's just thinking more carefully about what she does rather than rattling things off.

Hard to know. You seem to have plans for Friday though so just keep those plans and go from there. (Do you have like specific plans -- where, when, etc. -- or just "yeah, Friday's good!" plans?)
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PUNKEY
 
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Reply Thu 9 Jun, 2016 07:33 pm
Perhaps she liked it when you two just had a cyber relationship, but REALITY is too much (actually seeing and talking to you)

Ask her out one more time. Be specific about the time and the place and what you will be doing. If she freezes up again, then move on.

(For whatever reason, she just is not ready for the one on one. Maybe a group activity would be best, since you really haven't been alone with her. )
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