Any good girls left? I recently read a post that says good girls are all gone by the age of 24 lol.

The people I know are the ones telling me to get rid of these girls.

Girl tells me how much I should spend on her a month not good.

Girl moves in with me and quits her job not good. Sits around all day makes a mess and I have to cook and clean do everything. I have even tried to make this work at least she was not accusing me of cheating right? Sooner or later she gets bored and takes it out on me oh fun fun.

Girl pops into my job several times asking co workers who I am talking to and what I do not good. Daily conversations about my cheating even though I have never cheated on a girl ever in my life. I am a shy guy if I have a girlfriend I would never even attempt to find another.

Thinks having multiple partners is a good idea and I should too. Sorry not the basis of a real relationship here.

Girl turns out to be an actual hooker trying to scam guys out of money not good at all.

What am I not liking? How could I be with any of these types of women it is simply not possible. You are acting like I find decent women and am simply turning them down that is not the case here.

Please explain how I should have tried any harder with any of these girls. Oh and I repeat I am winding up with leftover junk no one would ever consider marrying if they were in their right mind.

1. stop thinking about girls.

2. start thinking about the people you date as women. it will help you if you think differently about the people you want to meet.

Where are you meeting women? are you meeting them at night school? in interest groups/clubs like meetup? in museums? in hiking groups? at volunteer activities?

What are you going to do to meet more appropriate women?

What suggestions have your friends made to help you meet more appropriate women?

do your friends ever tell you why they think you are meeting the wrong women? not why they are the wrong women - how your approach to meeting them is misfiring

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the focus shouldn't be on what's wrong with the women - the focus needs to be on what can be improved about your approach to meeting women you might consider appropriate?

I'm not your demographic, but I see your attitude as unpleasant - and most reasonable women would see that also.

Yes. For you, they are all gone by age 24, if not much younger.

Lol why is the internet just so full of people trying to cut someone down. Your post does nothing to help at all.

You do realize one of the girls I met turned out to be an actual hooker right had to call the police and everything. You are defending hookers lol.

You old charm school drop-out.

You consider hookers appropriate now? You are not a guy don't act like you know crap. We guys are dumb we do not have magical crystal balls that tell us if a girl is a good match or not we just try and hope.

I know plenty of awesome women by the way they are all married to my friends though. They think I am a nice sincere guy and I am.

Beth said "the focus shouldn't be on what's wrong with the women - the focus needs to be on what can be improved about your approach to meeting women you might consider appropriate?"

Once again you are not a guy. I am not focusing on what is wrong with them I try to remain as positive as possible I practically ignore all negative traits way past normal peoples limits. This is what people I know have a problem with I keep trying to make it work with terrible women, because I don't have a choice that is all I seem to find.

Get out of my head.

That's the first thing I thought.

Then again, a woman might not work because they generally know what they want, and most likely it wouldn't be someone like our friend.

I guess you didn't really read what she (and I) said.

Perhaps you need to be looking for women, not girls.

Possibly, just possibly, when the whole world seems wrong, it is time to look at one's self. Just a possibility, you know.

You obviously pick the wrong women, and it seems like you've a laser line to them.
Why?
That is what most of us here are asking.
And some of us consider calling women of your own age girls is a clue that you don't associate with regular grown up women.

Thus the advice to look into interest groups to meet people you might actually like, that wouldn't be after you in some devious way. You seem to be missing a world out there. Possibly that is from shyness. I won't mock shyness, have earlier been shy.

Have you considered going to counseling? Not that you are somehow crazy, but that it would be useful to talk all this out with someone on a routine basis for a while.

You're not paying attention to the advice we're trying to give you.

I do not disagree I find the wrong women and I do need consoling I seem to instinctively find the wrong ones, and my problem is getting worse not better. I have been looking this up a lot the last few days it seems it is just harder for both men and women my age to find someone.

Counseling would be helpful if I could get rid of the shyness at least then I would not be so prone to stay with women that I simply can not be with. I mean that girl that came to my job and accused some co worker I did not even know of being the other woman was a big no but I still tried to make it work for months. She just did not believe anything I said. I mean I went to work had to come strait home everyday could not go anywhere else without her and she still thought I was cheating. Yet she could go anywhere she wanted too :/. I never got to do anything I was getting depressed.

Every thing I read tells me to get out more join something try new things. So I am I am going to a lock and key dating event this weekend never done that. I think I will sign myself into a gym and take up some dance classes too. I can not even count how many opportunities I have passed up because I can not dance with my luck those were probably the normal women too lol. Problem is that my dad used to make me do stuff like clean the doghouse or mow the lawn and point out every mistake I made and laughed with his friends (he was a drunk) making being in front of people and doing something like dancing nearly impossible to this day. I must kick this dance thing I really need too I look like a dancer lol I am in shape. I think I may try that meetup stuff too.

Lol almost everyone I date likes me maybe a little too much. I just need someone that is fun to be around that actually believes in me when I tell them things.

I seem to find girls that are more concerned with how I feel about them than actually making me happy or having any concerns about how I feel at all. A girl I went out with liked police academy I don't I still watched it, but fell asleep halfway through it it was late does that mean I should wake up to a dvd being chucked at my head followed my a TV tipping over I think not.

I am half Japanese I like some anime and anime movies she did not I never forced her to watch them or got mad when she was in the room doing something else. I would like to be in a more equal relationship for once. It is somewhat my fault I am often told I am too nice I mean it is hard for me to say no to people and I am always helping everyone with everything thing is I know how to do many things.

I'm the world's worst dancer, though I've had some happy times doing the meringue in Mexico, taught by the crowd, and I can't carry a tune. I'm good at other things and so are you.

Me, I think you would benefit getting away from low self image, self esteem problems, and the right counselor can help.

I've only been counseled once and it was a debacle. I had been raped and the nice catholic counselor didn't believe me or didn't seem to, talked gibberish. That was fifty years ago. Alternately, I know there are good counselors out there now.

Maybe others here have advice on how to find one that will fit you.

No not good advice. I am sorry I am sure you do not appreciate people knowing you when they do not. She has no idea what kind of people I have been finding.

You are all obsessing with this girl thing way to much but whatever I will use women whatever. I am not dating younger women, but I may start. She acted like she knew me she does not and she does not know the women I have dated either lets see my last few.

1. Women cost me an average of 214 dollars a date wanted everything from food to manicures and whatever. If I did not she would just go somewhere with one of her other boyfriends yes we were all just objects to her. I only went out with her twice though. I am pretty good at identifying these now they usually don't go past date one if they ask for expensive stuff on date one not a good idea. One of my friends is actually like this she if fun gets me free drinks when we go out but I would never date her in a million years haha.

2. My sister who I have not seen for 5 years came into town we like going to casino. I asked my girlfriend if she wanted to go she said she did not like casinos so she did not. She does not mind casinos she just wanted me to pick her over my sister lame stuff. I came back she had slashed my tires and broke a window in my car. My sister and I agreed I should get rid of her lol.

4. Many online dates where I wasted much time getting to know someone just to meet someone else. Pictures from twenty years ago or of different people completely. It is so embarrassing walking by someone 10 times and not being able to recognize them from the picture I of course was easy to find my pictures were less than a year old and of myself. Of course I am a nice guy so I stick around for the date and just hope she never calls again.

3. Had a great time on a first date that turned into a second. She came over we drank ect she stayed the night. Next day she says she is some kind of call girl or something and that if I do not give her 600 dollars she will ruin my life. I work in education this was scary so I just gave her the money thinking it would be over. She then started coming over asking for more money and threatening to send thugs to collect. I called the police worried I would lose my job etc I realized she would just keep coming until I did. The police were so bored by my situation I was shocked this is happening so much in my city right now it is not even funny. They never found her turned out I picked her up in front of someone else house and she gave me a fake name. This was the last online girl I ever dated I took down my profile after this.

4. Woman that came to my work and accused a co worker I did not know of being the other women I have already mentioned her.

5. Woman that was so convinced I was cheating on her she jumped on my head in the middle of the night several times. I went to sleep after and wake up to more silly stuff. She swallowed a whole jar of some type of pills and was laying in the middle of the road waiting to be ran over by oncoming traffic. She wanted so badly for me to finally admit I was cheating so I did even though I wasn't that finally calmed her down. This was two years ago this woman is actually married now lol turns out she decided that not all guys cheat and apologized to me even. She never accused her husband of it and they are just fine. Besides the constant accusations and craziness she was actually ok.

6. Already talked about dvd chucking tv tilting woman she was one of my all my past boyfriends were abusive types. This just kept getting worse and worse she insulted me all the time called me names etc. She was only nice if I got mad yelled and left for a few days then it would all happen again and again. I have women like her a few times I now hear my past boyfriends were abusive and I just run away literally.

7. I get along with a woman they move in with me then lose/quit their job. Honestly I could handle this, but does not clean cook or anything I have to do it all she gets depressed sooner or later and it all ends. One actually burnt Marconi and cheese so I would not ask her to make food again lol and by burnt I mean actual fire. I am very good at making food I would appreciate the effort. I have had these types several times too now.

8. Girl that dumps me for being a republican or being pro abortion etc I just think it is a choice for the woman with the baby that is all. Political views pizza toppings whatever I allow people to be who they are no two people are going to have the same views on everything its just asking for too much. Also if someone has a different viewpoint that is not something I feel must be changed people are who they are a ten minute conversation is not going to change that sorry and I won't lie and say I agree just because.

I am sorry but I do not see how I could make it work with these women if you can even call them women. As for the ones that dumped me what can I do about that pretend to be a Democrat Idk I voted for Obama thought he was cool.

She keeps talking about my friends too. Funny thing my friends are usually the ones saying where the f*** are you finding these girls omg they have met some and are like wth she is nuts. I did not say I was giving up though sigh but I have taken many breaks over the years sometimes for a year at a time even.

"Left over junk" is what you are too.

Your ok it just annoyed me that you assumed to know me and what I am going through. I am not simply dumping women because we do not like the same color or something I am staying with ones that everyone I know tell me are a really bad idea. Not getting rid of nice decent women here without significant issues I just never seem to find any well at least for the last 11 years now.