@msmonroe,
You need a lawyer.
This creep owes you child support, and probably to the other three women, too.
Get your claim in now because I guarantee you there's a line and your child will only get crumbs from him, but it's better than nothing. No matter what the deal is, your child needs shoes and formula and whatnot and he is responsible.
It is neither selfish nor sexist to make sure your child stays off welfare.