Re: I regret getting married
joeLA wrote:...I say we take any women we want, it's our GOD given right, just because we are males, the dominant species in this planet.
I think that is called rape... and that ain't cool.
Quote:If I'm reading you right, you don't have a positive view of marriage.
i'm not getting that from his post...
Also Mr. Joe LA, leave "GOD" out of it. You silly, silly, little man.
When did males become a species? Does this mean they can breed and produce viable offspring?
Where are you Mr. JoeLA? <this next part is in a sing song voice>: Come out, come out wherever you are...<this part, I'm growling...>: with your dukes up!
He's trying to start some of the same **** on another thread.
relationships
Regret:
Marriage I still believe is GREAT if married to the right person, but if you are married for the wrong reasons it is "HELL on earth."
I personally have been married 3 times.
I married the 1st time because I was pregnant and then 4 months later he had an affair and wanted out. (I later remarried this same person)
He never meet our daughter until she was 13. (Remember he by then was remarried to the woman he was having an affair with)
Years later after I had remarried (another person) and was in a very abusive relationship (Bad parental foundation)
Foundation is the key. I was on faulty foundation. See I still "thought" I
was in love with husband number 1--NO closure causes this...
So after the stay at a women's shelter I got my divorce 8 years after running and hiding. Husband #2 did not want me he just didn't want anyone else to have me either.
So when my daughter was 16 I remarried her father...sounds simple. (I had a father issue both my parents were alcoholics so I thought my daughter really needed her father. Because I was always kept away from mine)
Well what she got was not a father at all. As I later learned was that I was now married to an alcoholic also.(And a pervert) OH he went to work every day and traveled so it was nothing like my parents.
This man not only caused me to go on to several nervous breakdowns
he also tried to molest our daughter.
He is now lying in a hospital in GA on life support. He has no friends left.
His family has asked me to be there for him, this is hard.
Our daughter is mildly retarded and is my world.
And one thing life has taught me is.. . that... if you are married you need
Trust/Honesty/Love if you do not have all three you do not have what it takes. (And it is never 50-50...some days it is 70-30 while others it is 90-10 and changes like the wind)
Love comes from the heart. And once your heart has been broken it is hard to mend and trust again.
But like all things GOD has created he has given us free will.
Free to start life over/to fix what is wrong in a relationship/get any help one needs to be happy/Free to believe.
Freedom in anything is not free there is always a price.
A good marriage takes lots of work.
But a one sided marriage is never balanced and will never work.
I can say for sure that it is better to be alone and lonely than it is to be
with some one and still be lonely.
Never stay married because of your children the price is too high.
Never stay in a relationship that is verbally/Emotionally or Physically
abusive.
If you do not love yourself HOW can you love another.
Know what you want out of life before you make another life.
NEVER/NEVER/give up on love....hurt heals pain can last a life time.
The best gift one can give themsevles is to have friends and you never know when a friend will turn into a loved one.
More money does not buy happiness but it can buy lots of misery!!
Never marry for money.
Never lower your own standards===whenever you do you have sold yourself short.
Love does not hurt if it hurts it is not love.
Forgivness is not for the wronged ==it is for the healed so they may move forward.
Would I marry again...only if GOD sent the "right" person in my path.
Laurie :>)
whoa. best wishes to you, laurie ann.
