Im in a Similar situation. I cheated on my husband, and was falling out of love with him for months. I cheated on him with on of his close friends. This man and i have had feeling for each other for years, never acted on them because of situations, and we each seemed happy.
We recently became emotionally and physically involved, since july. I'm not in love with my husband. I do love this other man, and want to be with him.
But, i also am having a very hard time letting go of my husband. We have a 18 month old son together and he has 2 girls from a previous marriage. I feel terrible for making him feel like death, and hate life every day.
I know what i should do, but i dont want to.
I need to stop seeing this other man, and be with my family, and see if there is anything left for my husband.
Its not fair for this other man, nor is it fair for this girl, in your case. Neither of us are truly free to be woth these other people.
I guess we both need to be adults and do what is best for others, and at least try a little bit more.
I have been to marriage counseling,twice, which my husband did not want to go, he hated it.
I loved it, would have liked to have gone more.
Good luck, we both truly know what we need to do, its just the act of doing.