Many people at different times in life will fantasize about sex with someone. Probably half (I've no idea and am not a statistic chaser unless I have to) of those people who fantasize at least sometimes, close to all of us on earth in numbers, are women.
Years before I ever had my first sexual experience - it was long ago and I was rather protected - I fantasized about a football player I saw on tv/listened to the games on radio, read about in newspapers, and.... prayed for. That was since it was suggested that I had a vocation to be a nun since in those years, believe it or not, medical schools frowned on women since they would only quit and get married, thus a waste of education time. Since I wanted to be a nun, or thought I did for a few months, I only fantasized kissing him and having long talks.
This is really no different that what goes on with many people who like porn. It's an enjoyment and oft times a help. A matter of degree, and results. (I don't mean all porn is somehow good, I'm saying that I'm not judging all of it as bad.)
Oh, and that player and his later pro football side kick both got caught in some illegal scheme. By that time I had grown up and laughed, mainly because Karras was funny.
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So, what do I think: I think Bumblebee123 may change views over time, or well may not change views.
I think she is mixed up re being somehow dissed by this, but that is for her to decide and talk about with him.
We have a whole lot of threads here at a2k on the subject, filled with strong opinions against and for. That could be a place to start reading.
http://able2know.org/forum/porn/
http://able2know.org/forum/pornography/
I will guess that most of those posters are on the Against side.