@AdamL,
Don't you wanna say, that you both don't work and can devote all the time to your child? But bringing up a child requires not only time, but money. A lot of money
@Richard42,
I understand it. We are working now, but we can find a compromise. For example, work at home. Or find new jobs with flexible schedule
moment with work is important and it is better when both parents work. Work it is money, insurance... and money mean products, clothes, car, house, school, college, meds and so on. And in case when some of you will be fired or somehow loose work the other one will be able to earn money at least for the most important things while the other one will search for the new job.
@Bubble-Bl,
But children need attention no less (even more) than clothes, food and education. And if you work, you cannot devote time to your children. It is hard to find balance between these 2 aspects
@Bubble-Bl,
it is important to give your child everything he\she needs, but when a child is brought up by strangers and doesn't see his\her parents, it is not a variant. For both
@AdamL,
Of course, a child must see his parents. Every day. A child must know, that for parents he\she is the most important. But I see nothing bad in asking some people to help with bringing up children
@Richard42,
What does it mean "some people"? What people can bring up your child better than you?
majority of working parents live like that. During the day they are at work (while children are in kindergarten or with nanny or with grandparents) and in the evening they spend time together. Plus weekend you can spend with your child. see nothing bad when both parents work.
@Bubble-Bl,
When a child goes to the kindergarten, there will be no problem at all. But wile a child is small, he\she needs parents' attention 24\7
@Bubble-Bl,
Yes, you are right. Asking a nanny or grandparents for help doesn't mean, that I'm not responsible for my child. I will devote him\her every free minute!
@Richard42,
But the main word is "free". How many free minutes will you have if you work? Only nights when a child is already asleep
@AdamL,
I will lose nothing, because newborn kids are asleep almost the whole day. And by the way, a newborn doesn't always understand whether daddy is here or not. But even the smallest child understands whether there is something to eat, something to wear and something to play with
@Richard42,
I cannot agree with you. because I don't think that a child needs clothes and toys more than love and attention.
child need everything love and toys. Newborn child have no idea what is more important, daddy or toy car that is why there is no reason for quarrel. Parents all over the world have children and work. At first you need to have child and than you will see what to do further.
@Bubble-Bl,
Nobody quarrels. Of course, a child needs both love and material things. Of course, there are many working parents. But it is very difficult to find a balance between work and parenting.
maybe it is not so hard as you think... maybe it is easier, people always imagine worst and hardest things. Try and you will know.
@Bubble-Bl,
Maybe you are right. People always try to be ready for the worst, but it doesn't mean that it will probably happen. Millions of people nowadays balance between work and family. And they do it successfully.
@Bubble-Bl,
You are right, a newborn baby usually doesn't understand what material and spiritual values mean, but a baby always understands whether he\she feels good or not. And the main duty of every parent is to make his child feel good.
@Bubble-Bl,
Everybody should understand, that it is never easy to bring up a child, specially if you are combining it with work. But everything is individual, and what is impossibly hard for one person, can be easily done by another.
@Richard42,
If your work doesn't allow you to spend enough time with your child, you can look fore another work. I doesn't mean that you have to change your workplace immediately, just search some information.
