1 in 5 women get raped?

What every Sexual Abuse Survivor Wants You to Know.

It is the voice in our heads that tells us we are not enough, that we don’t deserve love, that it’s our fault, that no one will love us and that we don’t belong.

In a split second the voice of childhood trauma speaks to us and sabotages our relationships, our careers. The voice has cost us too much—it feels like it has cost us our lives. It has cost us our relationships, abundance, our health, watching our children grow up and dreams paralyzed in time.

I remember feeling like I didn’t have another breath to give, space to love another person or another tear to shed. I remember not having energy to support another person, give another day at work or another day at life.

It is a paralyzing moment when either all our dreams are about to come true—or we are about to lose everything we have ever worked for.

It shows up when least expected.

*snip*

It can show up in a simple touch from another person, in the way a picture hangs or a shirt that someone is wearing. Sometimes it’s going back to the home, where we grew up, that holds the memories of the abuse we experienced and witnessed. It’s all those things that trigger us, day in and day out, when we least expect it.

It costs us everything.

We are always in recovery.

*snip*

It forces us to make unbelievable choices.

At the cost of belonging, of being loved, we will show up, protecting those we love. We will keep silent and lose sleep; we will be stressed and we will get sick. It’s about what will happen, what we will lose and what it will ultimately cost us if we disclose what happened.

*snip*

It is exhausting but healing is worth it.

Healing is worth it. Survivors will create life, love anyway, heal anyway, forgive anyway and trust anyway. Sometimes our very existence can be exhausting. Yet, people will want us to heal on their time. They will ask to hurry up, forgive and move on. However, people don’t understand that it takes a lot of focus, practice and courage for us to show up.

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more at link

http://www.elephantjournal.com/2015/02/what-every-sexual-abuse-survivor-wants-you-to-know/

All this name-calling is breaking my heart! You guys need to calm down!

Let me see. Perhaps a little humor will work, . . .

Giujohn was more than a ladies' man. He also liked to collect rocks.

(courtesy of Pearlylustre in another topic)


. . . or perhaps a song with instructive lyrics would make everyone happy!



Wait! I've got an even better idea! Did you know that nononono has a pet cat that sings? Yes, he does; and his talented cat has agreed to put on a performance just for us!





No, I'm not proud.

Only if you suck at it. One trauma event only destroys you if you let it.

Yes, try, try, try until you succeed if you are interested in fame and / or money.

Yes, love everyone and accept them for who they are, after all it shouldn't affect you if you are "ok" with who you are. Feel sorry for them.

Yes, take an injury on the chin, deal with it, pain and all after all there are worse off people than you.

Rape trauma?

Hawkeye with all due respect. That "person" has taken away something that you can not get back. Sure, you can through help and belief and strength get stronger but you keep trying to put other rules of life that you life by, have experienced, believe in, into a Rape case.

Again, not to be rude but what would you know? You have never been Raped.

Having said that, you once stated I believe that your wife did?

If you are the strength behind her getting over it more power to you, because it's one hell of a thing to get over from those I have supported through such an ordeal.

Not many people can help in those situations it takes numerous people to help get past such a crime.

Yep a crime.

I hope that you acknowledge the situation and not just give strength.

It seems if I am correct that your way of solving the "Trauma" is to add the routine of it with pain as pleasurable.

People do this for self gain.

I believe you did this for love.

Such graphics is not necessary honestly.

You're paranoid because you listen to the lies on Fox News. I don't live in the nightmare world they've constructed.

You prefer fantasy, just don't fool yourself it's anything but.

Those of us who find such images upsetting are already on the right side of the argument. The others revel in it. Try not to give Hawkeye, Nonono and Oralloy more images to jerk off to.

"Boo Hoo Boo Hoo. My father was an alcoholic. I'm a victim, why won't anyone listen to me?"

Nobody sucks at it like you, you pathetic worm.

In 30,000 posts and 7 years I have mentioned that maybe 4 times.

Try again for an insult with punch.

define this something.

Someone has problems counting, (and spelling, and reasoning, and dealing with reality.)

I hate the violence committed on women. I loathe how some men deny it so blithely. I abhor the sort of paternalistic indifference it takes to minimize the facts and sweep them off the table.

I want to make the truth undeniable. I am very sorry I offended you. I understand the possibility the these documentary photos may need a "NSFW" label.

I get no joy whatsoever posting them

I am sorry your drunken father beat you. Why do you not feel sympathy for the 1 out of five women being sexually assaulted?

Hawkeye allowed a paedophile babysitter to abuse his children. He says he feels no guilt, preferring to babble about his Zen nonsense.

Any decent human being would feel racked with guilt if that had happened to their children, regardless of how much effort they'd put in to protect them. That's part of the human condition. The fact that Hawkeye feels no guilt shows he has little, if anything, in the way of humanity, just narcissism and sociopathy.


Most of his post are designed to shock and get attention focused on him. He very rarely adds anything to the debate and understands even less. He's like the very stupid pupil who disrupts lessons because he doesn't understand what's going on, but craves attention. His emotional development went into a state of neoteny once he hit puberty.

Why are you and bob changing your names on A2K?

I've posted as The Subliminal Kid for a long time.