msolga wrote:I think it's possible for quite "normal" (whatever that means! :wink: ) people to choose not to have sexual lives, for a period of time, or perhaps indefinitely.
Yes, they're celibates, different from asexuals. Celibates
choose to live sexless lives. I experience no sexual attraction whatsoever. It's like there are gays who live heterosexual lives, get married and settle down for, as you said a period of time or indefinitely "til death us do part". Could be because they don't want to risk losing family if they come out or they don't 'want' to be gay but no matter how long they live in the lifestyle, they're not going to be sexually attracted to the opposite sex. They can be emotionally, physically (aesthetically) attracted totally madly dedicated to their spouse, which, a lot of the time is what keeps them from coming out. They don't want to lose that special person.
Likewise, there are plenty of asexuals who live the married life for the same reason. They have a partner they're madly in love with, want to spend the rest of their life with, want kids and a family but experience no sexual attraction to the person. Often they don't tell them because people tend to think of 'not being sexually attracted' to someone means that you don't love them 100%. My mum doesn't listen to me. Not that she doesn't love me 100% but because she's deaf. It's the same thing. we can use the sign language, we can write notes to each other but at the end of the day, she still doesn't hear my voice.