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Sun 23 May, 2004 12:28 pm
What would you do if you found out that one of your parents were having an affair ?
Why would you be expected to do anything?
I guess we know where Edgar stands on this issue
Mind my own business.
They're adults.
Gus, you implying a guilt complex?
Noddy24 wrote:Why would you be expected to do anything?
Perhaps side with the parent who's being cheated on and disassociate with the parent doing the cheating.
cerealkiller - if that's expected, then there is something wrong with the child-parent relationship, IMNSHO. Good parents don't expect their kids to take sides.
cerealkiller--
A child has no more right to meddle in his/her parents' marriage than the parents have a right to meddle in a child's marriage.
Marriage is a contracted relationship between two people and every other person in the world is an outsider.
Sympathies may be with one parent or another--but loyalities should be to both parents who are undoubtedly having difficult times now that the affair is out on the open.
ehBeth wrote:cerealkiller - if that's expected, then there is something wrong with the child-parent relationship, IMNSHO. Good parents don't expect their kids to take sides.
So you (and some others) would have no reaction whatsoever ?
Your life would just go merrily along ?
If there were other, negative, factors, then a little or much concern might be in order.
edgarblythe wrote:If there were other, negative, factors, then a little or much concern might be in order.
No obligation to rat the guilty party out ?
cerealkiller - my parents marriage is their business, not mine. As noddy pointed out - it is a contract between them. I'm not part of the contract.
My relationships with them are with them individually - not with them as a set.
I found my Dad's little black book, after he had passed on. I burned it in the fireplace and kept my mouth shut. If my parents relationship had been warm and loving I might have felt bad about the deception. As it was my Mom was a, "cold fish" to both of us most of the time. I hope Dad found someone who really loved him.
Sam
ehBeth - Are you saying it wouldn't affect you ? You wouldn't feel disdain for the cheater ?
Nope.
I'd be a little disappointed that they hadn't ended the marriage before moving on - but it's not for me to hold them in disdain for something like an affair.
In my case, both my father and step-father did not deserve any consideration. If my mom could have found a man who would keep her happy, I say, wonderful.
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