Given your 'research', what do you think explains the large number of birth parents on adoption registries waiting to be contacted?
Again, and yet again and again.....I am NOT debating or arguing the point that many, many, many times a person wishes to met their adult child.
Why are you and ci ignoring each and every instance where I have said words to this effect?
Again, and yet again, I am not debating that each and every circumstance is different and unique.....forever and ever amen.
I have never said, although ci has accused me of this several times, I am not the "only person with the right answers about kids....."
As far as what other forums I belong to. Not relevant and frankly none of your business. I go by other names, and want my privacy respected....not unlike the subject matter here.
Be assured it's not some way out in left field, extreme, weird forum. It is, I can tell you, a place where many different opinions are much better received from here, due to the fact on A2k there are too few members at this point, and this creates a feeling of not wanted to upset the apple cart, offend anyone, or step on toes. Don't get me wrong. I like coming here. I also like going to other forums where equally normal people have differing opinions.
ci, that's great, I'm glad you agree with the 11 thumbs up. I would probably go with the 5 thumbs down....a not insignificant %.
Is is your point that over 30% of the people's opinion is wrong, should be ignored?
If each situation is unique special, etc. Then you can easily see there are many situations where the birth parent would be pained, shocked, dismayed, angered etc that someone attempts to seek them out.
What I am extremely curious about is why absolutely no sympathy is being given to them.
BTW ehbeth...I never called this "research". I simply asked a group of normal, everyday people. I reported back what the total of all these people said was their opinion.