Thu 31 Jul, 2014 09:01 pm
Okay so the title says it all. He sucks!!
I think his mind gets the best of him. If I say something a couple times during intercourse he gets soft. He says it's cause it makes him think. If he's tired he does NOT perform well and gets a softee very quickly. I have tried to show him different positions. I have tried to be more romantic and lead up to sex. I have tried dressing up. You name it. Some times it works and sometimes it doesn't but overall he's boring with Sex. Maybe it's cause I've had better. or Maybe I'm too wild and freaky. I don't know. But he fricken sucks at Sex. It's boring.
Well, it sounds like it's time for a new boyfriend.
Either that or have a heart-to-heart with him and help the guy understand what goes on for you. Maybe you suck at communicating?
Maybe you suck at communicating?
More sucking and less communication seems call for.....
You are too controlling for a woman.
you are making him into a woman and he is
losing his masculinity.
you have a masculine nature.
Maybe he is not getting enough practice.
Maybe because you say "something" a couple of times during intercourse.
Either keep quiet because he likes it that way, or stop saying something like "You're doing it wrong", "Are you done yet?" or "I hope you don't get soft"
If you must speak, try saying "You're wonderful" and "I love it." He will perk right up if you do a good enough job.
Is this the same guy you talked about in your previous post? (How to break up with someone)
Ye gads, girl, what else do you need to let this dude go?
Get a puppy if you want to feel sorry for someone. Your relationship with this dude is demeaning - for him and for you.
I think his mind gets the best of him
I think you're right.
I feel compassion for him and I think you do too.
Let him go before anymore damage is done to his self-esteem
Sometimes you have to be cruel to be kind.
When he finds a chick (or dude) who gets his motor running, he'll be fine. End it nicely for both your sakes.
Your boyfriend doesn't suck at sex, he has trouble maintaining an erection. That's a lot different than having poor technique. Either he needs to see a doctor or he needs to find someone who engages his libido.
Or...it could also be he's turned off at some point by her...it's about chemistry. It's not necessarily his fault...
Hey dear, look at this first:
Edgar said, magnificently: "If you must speak, try saying "You're wonderful" and "I love it." He will perk right up if you do a good enough job."
Try that before ending it. Most of us obviously think your downer comments are harshing his mojo. But, if being nothing but positive doesn't help, give it a sweet end and move on.
Almost nobody is "bad at sex" if they're naked with someone who wants to enjoy doing the dirty. How many of us could stay in the moment and patiently build up to that screaming magic if the person we're trying to **** is talking us down? Think about it.
Yup. It may be that he feels intimidated or inadequate. If he knows that you're more experienced, he may feel that there's nothing he can do to live up to your past. Positive feedback should help. Just a guess.
Sure beats her reciting the Gettysburg Address.
Unless he can recite something equivalent or even harder, like the entire Bill of Rights.
Might as well. Not much else going on.
The sensitivity and empathy is breath-taking