Oh my God this guy is a jerk. Please believe me you a playing with fire. He's going to get worse. Not only will he get worse, he will not let you go easily. He thinks you're property, his property. This rough treatment is assault, pure and simple. I don't know where you live or what your family situation is like, but you must let others know what is happening to you. You will need to be careful and get the hell away from him while you still can. Whatever you do, DO NOT QUIT YOUR JOB.
All I can tell you for sure is that if I hadn't insisted on keeping my job, I never would have been able to escape my first husband. I thought I married a wonderful man, I constantly had to reassure him, the more assurances I gave him the more suspicious he got. He was unfaithful, I didn't know because he seemed to worry constantly that someone at work would steal me away from him. I became isolated from my friends and didn't even realize it.
It all came apart one night after hours of him screaming, threatening to kill allbofcus,throwing all my plants on the floor, tearing the drapes off the window until I finally calmed him down and convinced him to rest on the bed. I cleaned up the broken pottery, swept up the potting soil and wash the floor. I was exhausted and walked into the living room to rest on the sofa. No sooner did I lay down I heard the bolt come back on his rifle. I had to beg him to put the gun down, when he did I fainted. I have never before or since fainted because of fear.
Please, don't ignore your reservations, you know you are in danger. Don't let it go as far as I did. I'm lucky to be alive, I want you to live a long natural life.