Women, Problems, Dating, and being single.

Huh . . . i think you're goofy . . . i never refer to myself as a chick.

I think you're just not connecting with your rough-edged femininity...

I get up earlier than The Girl, so at about the time she's to get up, i call up stairs and loudly say "Goooood Moooooorning." She always replies: "Hi, Boy . .. hi, Boy." These are not things which trouble us.

I don't think of it as neg, more a word surprise from my youth. Enjoy your using it, chica.

I'm so old that we did used to call ourselves girls, and you can see I still do, re my smartassgroup, somewhere on a2k.

So, re buttermilk, what's the deal?

Can you be more specific in your question?

EDIT: Nevermind I'm kinda giving up on this thread it was a mistake to pose the question. I see the "ladies" here got offended when I'm referencing the women in my own life, who I've met, as if I'm speaking about them or women everywhere.

Ok get over myself how? I'm the least arrogant person (perhaps you have yet to experience that) but I'm narrating what I've been told, I'm sorry that you took my words as if I'm being arrogant.

What is "just like myself?" I've been a member on this board for approximately 3 days and many of you hardly know me, so I doubt your so-called assessment of who I am would but an accurate description. I don't want a woman "just like me"--GAH this was a worthless endeavor on my part to even ask.

I was very detailed on my problem

How am I generalizing women?

I'm quite clear

You know what? Forget about the thread, I actually made a mistake posing this question because either the people don't comprehend key phrases like "in my experience" or "women I've met" then this is a pointless endeavor.

First and foremost I do not, have not, and did not generalize women in this thread. All I have done was take the sum of my experiences and have narrated them down in this thread as something of a consistent issue in my life. I'm sorry you ladies took offense and somehow translated "my experiences" as if I'm saying all. Forgive me but I made a mistake in posing this question...Thanks for your participation. I'll probably just go out and have a beer with the fellas and just ask people I know outside chat forums.

Excuse the tone, but it's quite annoying that people took me saying "in my experience" as if I'm saying all women in (for example) the state of Rhode Island eact exactly like the women here in California. GEEZ for God's sake even scientific research has shown that people can make an analysis of common behavior of people based on sociological upbringing I don't see how I cannot make the same analysis about my own life?

OK. I know it can be tough to open yourself up to criticism by posting personal stuff online.

It's also easier to talk about similarities in the three Hispanic women you dated than discuss anecdotes about each one. I guess we can all find ourselves utilizing the shorthand of generalization devoid of nefarious motivations. I didn't think you did anything horrible, but it seemed to me based on your way of discussing them - that it is likely you don't meet women as individuals, and that made me think I had a bead on your difficulties developing romantic relationships.

So, don't feel unduly maligned. I understand your withdrawal from the subject.

That is probably a really good idea.

Then you'll be talking to people who know you, and the particulars of your situation more than we could ever know.

Like Lash, I understand the difficulties of presenting a subject like dating problems on a forum like this.

My M.O. is to probe the poster for underlying motives.

The exchange can be awkward and clumsy on line but it's my experience that when a single man complains about the scarcity of quality available dates, well...there might be an underlying reason.

My "get over yourself'" was meant more as an entreaty to examine your own motives and not as an insult.

You're a perceptive and articulate poster and I apologize for not mentioning that in my reply.

It's not about being criticized, it's about reading what I'm saying without the gender bias, ask questions, then offer a strangers view. If I wanted to debate my life, I would've changed the tone of the discussion. I was clearly asking for an analysis of the situation, not a debate. It's one thing to criticize, it's another to criticize when it's unwarranted.

I clearly gave examples of prototypical personalities I encounter both intra-racially and inter-racially. so I can gave you guys a socio-cultural perspective. Anyway perhaps people here view posts with emotions first as opposed to reason.

That is how I took it, that you equated your experiences with women everywhere.
You might too, if you reread.

Um no...When a person says "in my experience" that lets me know they're referring to people collectively who they've encountered. Since you are not a part of my collective experience (since you and I have never met) quite obviously I wasn't referring to you or any woman here. Perhaps you should re-read. The moment you read "in my experience" you should have thought "OH GEE, HE'S NOT TALKING ABOUT ME."

Your experience seems to put women into categories, that is plain in your text.

Yes women "I've met." Just like if 10 men whose personalities are like "assholes" then obviously any personality I encounter reflecting that would be categorized appropriately based on my experience. Humans unconsciously make associations of unpleasant experiences to identify and avoid those experiences again.

The right attention.