what can i do to make my relationship better?

Run away now. Run very fast.

You can make it better by leaving him.

He made you quit your job? Are you kidding?

I cant leave i love this man very much. We been through so much. I am willing to try and fix thangs with him. He has done all that but deep down he is a good man to me. He gives me everything i could ever want and makes me feel very special inside somethimes. Yes he messed up a few times but im willing to fix our problems and get pasted it. I just dont know how.

Did you really mean to use that word? Perhaps it is a sign. Time to leave, I think.

Hahaha i ment past it. How can i leave when sooner or later ill be right back.

You are besot, infatuated, crazy about him, and so on, but this isn't what love is. Love is caring, a product of caring over time, and infatuation can spark all the long time stuff, but often does not, probably more often than not.

He doesn't care about you except to sort of own you.

Meantime, you are behaving as if you are hardly a person yourself so that he will keep liking you. This is not a good start on life. I hope you are using birth control.

I don't say this as an anti porn person. I've only watched it once, in a theater 40 years ago - ooof, almost funny. But many couples enjoy watching it together. Alternately, we have many threads in the archives here of people dealing with others obsessed by it.

What I don't like, though, is his control of you, while he explores sex.

Please get away from that.

No one can force you to quit a job. You are in danger of forgetting who you are. Sure you've heard the expression...there are no victims, only volunteers.

Im not infatuated with him. I love him. I cant live without him. And no im not on birthcontrol. Ive been wanting a baby for the past year . We have been trying but no luck

Thats true he didnt force me to quit my job. I did it so there would b no problemsfor him thinking im cheating. I did it for him.

Roll over, Beethoven.

Well, that was sarcastic., but I'm not sorry. All I can say is that you are confused about love. It does not mean being subsumed.

Do you ever just walk around by yourself? Look around, in the city or the countryside? Do you have no sense of self except fixing on this controlling person?

Yu dont know me or what ive been through. All you know is what you have read. Thats it and i dont need your advice. So stop writting on my sh1t. And i can care less if your not sorry!

The best way to ensure a healthy relationship is to ensure there is a harmonious balance of power. You should always retain your dignity. Your needs are no less important than his. You are not a puppy or a child ( meaning he shouldn't always take the lead) The guy has already cheated on you, hasn't offered you marriage, is not giving you attention outside the bedroom..at this point he should be doing the changing. Do you think with these issues it is a good idea to get pregnant? BTW is is unhealthy to leave a job to ascertain he won't be jealous. If that's what it takes to help him feel comfortable. Most importantly though, it is the fact you seem willing to do whatever is required of you to keep him.

Why do you think it's YOUR job to make this a better relationship? What's wrong with it? From the sound of it, you do everything he wants. So what's the problem?

You have a man who does not trust you and makes things so uncomfortable that you leave your job. How is that LOVE?

I don't get it. Monica -

He has asked me to Merry him. But im the one holding off. Im still young and ant to make sure he is the one. We have been on and off almost our whole relationship. The love is the only thing that brings us back together.

Its not only my job its both of our jobs to make things better. I do c him trying harder now that he got caught cheating. Deep down i do feel like he can change. The only reason im giving him a second chance is because he didn't asleep with nobody it was only an online cheating. Its love because what we been through theses past couple of years. He has showed me he can be right.

Just be glad he's a good hard worker and not a drunken junkie bum. And as long as he's giving you some of his hard-earned cash, think of sex as a nice way of helping him recharge his batteries ready for next days toil..

How can you make the relationship better? Have more sex with him, Monica - that's all he's interested in!
Conclusion: you cannot make it a better relationship if he doesn't want to!

You have two options: either you take it or you leave it! He won't change!
Another thing - a baby will drive him away even further, trust me, he's the type!

considering that he is keeping a woman 24/7, wants to marry her, and wants to have kids with her, this must be one stupid guy then. Sex can be had much cheaper, and with out getting tied down.

You can't make it better, you're living with a shitbag. All you can do is decide how much time of your life you want to waste.