I shouldn't have used the line 'dated someone right before we got married'. From what he told me, he dated this girl right before he and I started dating. This was back towards the end of 2010/beginning of 2011. He told me that he DID end things with her directly. Even if he didn't don't most 'normal' women simply move on? They did not live together, they weren't engaged or married, how many times did she need to hear it? He sent me emails that she had sent him demanding answers and she couldnt understand why it was over, she had such strong feelings for him, etc. Then she sent one saying she acted the way she acted (Crazy) because of health issues and she hopes he doesnt think she's psycho.
I was surprised that he had this type of relationship right before me. she seemed to think more of it than he did...but maybe it was more serious than he is telling me. I think he probably was uncomfortable telling me he had a relationship with someone so close to being with me. He said she went crazy, showed up at his work, his house. After she sent me this email, my cousin who is my husbands former roommate even called me to verify that she is crazy and he almost had to have her arrested because she would not leave the house one day. He's like, trust me he has nothing to do with her.
I just DO NOT KNOW WHY I had to get emailed by her and now I'm questioning what the hell really happened. She has certainly made it seem to me that she is a jilted woman. Her emails seemed strange, uncomposed. The first email was her pretending to be someone else and she's like, the truth is your fiance spent the night with his ex-girlfriend the other night. He cheated on her, now he's cheating on you, he's going to tell you this is a lie, blah blah. i of course asked him about this and that's when he told me his past with her. I wrote back to her telling her to back off and she wrote back telling me that he was in her bed. THen she went on saying the part about he just stopped calling her and never ended things in an appropriate manner. So here she is telling me he cheated on me with her, he didnt end their relationship properly, she also mentioned that she has since moved on, but it's a pain she will never forget.
i have never heard of someone being that crazy 2-3 years after a relationship ended that they still felt the need for revenge towards their 'ex'. My husbands story has not changed since all this went down 8 months ago. He said he thinks she strategically found out that we were getting married on such and such a date (Clearly she stalked both of us online) and then decided to drop a bomb 7 weeks before our wedding because she's still mad. Maybe she's mad she didnt marry him? I dont get it. I couldnt imagine doing that and harboring such anger towards someone who really never meant much.
but every now and then i think, what if my husband is lying? i dont believe he was having a relationship with both myself and her...but i cant help but wonder, did he sleep with her at some point?? He says no.