Why has she ceased speaking to me?

I was simply asking for some advice from anyone whom this may have happened to in the past. I didn't ask for any of you to be dicks about it.

Yeah. You have a "better idea" of why she walked away. Give me a break LOL. You're probably the one who started being a dick in the first place and everyone here followed suit.

What are you talking about? You're seriously sounding like an old man right now. I've never heard of any sort of "course search engines" in any of my classes.

Did you go to a community college? That might explain why they had such things and had professors who used Facebook.

Skills in what, exactly? So far I've seen (mainly from Bill and Coastal) a lack of logical reasoning and a level of douche-baggery beyond my comprehension. So yes, I couldn't conceive that.

This from a man who claims to had gotten rid of one phone without moving his contacts list to his new phone.

Tell you what email me on this system her complete name and the university she is going to and I will get her contact information for you.

You are full of bullshit.

My bet is you will claims not to have her full name.

You have been a load of laughs, JimmyJ. First you ask us why she stopped speaking to you and what could have caused this behavior of hers. You even wrote this in your OP.
Notice there is nothing about a lost phone number or any such thing. Only that you had not attempted to contact her, which leads to the obvious conclusion that you could contact her, you just were choosing not to make contact. So, when we suggest you contact her (something I think everyone suggested) you come up with the story of losing her number. When you get asked about that, you come up with the story about trading in a damaged phone whose data was not recoverable. And then, lo and behold, you finally claim that you really don't want to contact her anyway.

So if you don't want to contact her again, what is your problem? You say you want to know what you may have done wrong. NEWSFLASH: We don't know because we were not there. Nobody here can answer the question. Not because we are not all brilliant people (we are...well, most of us) but because what you want to know is unknowable by people who do not know you and how you act in a social setting.

But you keep posting and criticizing us for being no help. Or not answering the right question. Or being a bit smartassed with the only obvious response to your question. A response that a college guy should have been able to figure out himself without asking a bunch a strangers.

And you have the nerve to call Bill and I douche-bags? Like Glitter, I think I'm done here. Have fun.

I cannot help myself. Must respond to one more.
Here is the only thing that can be interpreted as a question from your OP. (Not counting the thread title)
And everyone gave you the advice of contacting her. Then you went down the path I wrote about in my last post.

No, you asked for no advice whatsoever. You wanted to know what may have happened. And you were told repeatedly that we don't know. Ask her.

At least you got this correct. You did not ask. We just threw that in for free because that's the way we roll here.

Always better to be a leader rather than a follower. Maybe I'll make this my new sig line.

Now I am done here.

Obviously you didn't read the entire thread or you'd see that I don't wastefully spend 200$ to get a phone unless I need one (meaning my old phone stopped functioning, it was an iPhone 3G as stated earlier).

You're so focused on being a jack ass that you're not even reading anything any more. I am not giving you her name because I do not trust you. Never trust a jack ass.

Again, I have literally no reason to lie about any of that. You are all strangers to me and will never see or meet me. The obvious explanation there is that it ISN'T a lie.

The clear and logical assumption you should have made from the beginning was that I was looking for insight from some of you (which some of you SHOULD have, being that you're all on the back-9 of your life-times). If I had wanted to ask her/hunt her down as Bill is suggesting (despite not having any sort of way to get in touch with her, I'm sure I could find her if I just went to her house uninvited or something crazy/ridiculous like that) I wouldn't have come here to ask you guys. In conclusion, it's obvious that I never wanted to ask her or I would have asked her before coming here. I came here for a list of POTENTIAL explanations from girls who have done similar things to guys in the past.

Again, if I had wanted to contact her I wouldn't have come here to begin with.

So go away as we all had told you that only one person can explain her actions an she seems not to be on this system.

It's not like it's a big freaking deal text? Say you miss her company and would like to see her. If she doesn't respond fine..don't be so afraid to make a move dude ..in the end who gives a s$&@t.

Uh-oh Germlat. Now he's gonna call you a name. Weren't you reading? He won't text her because 1) he does not want to contact her and 2) because he lost her number. (He does seem to know where she lives, if I read between the lines properly, but he doesn't want to just show up on her doorstep.) All he wants from us is what he stated in his first post and that is quoted here

Of course, he cannot get it through his thick head that we have all basically told him we cannot give any guidance as to what may have happened because we were not there.

I'm beginning to think the education system has failed this poor young lad. Either that or he is just totally dense.

Interesting.

You're a senior citizen, correct? I find it odd that you post how you are "done here" and then continue to post afterwards. That somewhat reminds me of a high-school girls attitude.

If you had to be there to give guidance about anything there would be no room in society for therapists, councelors, or any sort of professionals whom literally practice the art of giving advice/guidance without having been there. Checkmate

I'm beginning to think life has failed you. I already assumed you were totally dense after your very first post, so that's a given.

I can't reach her via phone. As Coastal already pointed out, I do know where she lives (from hanging out with her there) but I don't want to just drop in uninvited.

Hi CR, it is hard to resist such a lippy upstart, but I'm just going to address the rest of the members, but not the unpleasant young man who is so terribly confused. The twerp who posted probably thinks anyone over 30 is a senior citizen. I can't speak for all my contempories, but I can afford to buy additional cell phones without the aid of my parents or student loans. I have changed my children's diapers, and I've changed my mothers diapers when she was diagnosed with Altzheimers at the age of 58.

My husband spent time in the military, we both worked in the intelligence community, and I have been on assignment behind the iron curtain. (How much you want to bet he has to google that term?). I've been trained in several languages, taught Eastern European History, mentored numerous individuals and all those other things the young mr. probably breezed through when he was in elementary school.




I do realize how whip smart 20 year old college boys are. It's sad, they have already reached the pinnacle of their potentional, no where to go but down. Of course he won't realize how stupid he has become until his own children reach the age if 11, ahhhh those were the days my friends.

I expected this thread would have burned out by now, but since I've read all this crap twice, I think I know why the young woman became scare. How much time would you want to waste on a young man who uses words like douchbaggery and tells people they are dicks because they didn't realize they were supposed to have information he never provided. Also, he's made a big deal out of how little he cares to find her, but wonders why she isn't seeking him out. How big of a tool worries about crap like that. Well, as I said CR, it's always good to see you and most of the members. I suspect the young man has mistaken us as a group of people who give a s$@t.

The best advice I can think of would be, he should approach a young woman he knows, while she is trying to study, his earbuds in place and presents his dilemma to her. If he is lucky, her jaw will drop long enough, for him to recognize he better run for his life before she slaps him silly with a heavy
textbook. The only downside I can think of, would be she would IMMEDIATELY tell all her friends about the creep who was trying to figure out why a girl he has NO INTEREST IN AT ALL, isn't seeking him out. Both males and females will not be able to resist repeating the story of the forlorn disinterested young man. That's life, embrace it.

Nope.

Changed my mind cause I'm having so much fun showing you all your inconsistencies. Sadly, this will be my last post for at least the evening as my wife and I are headed out for a while.

We gave you guidance. We told you over and over to talk to her. But then you pretended you had no way of contacting her when you know you can easily contact her. What we could not do, and no therapist, counselor (yes, it is spelled with an s college boy), or any sort of professional can do is answer the only question you asked.

You appear to be the failure. Women just stand up and walk away from you with no explanation and then never contact you again. Hopefully you will one day find one who can put up with you (just as my wife has put up with me for so many years) and then maybe you too can deny that life has failed you when idiots say that to you.

And therein lies one of your problems. When people do not tell you what you wish to hear, you make assumptions about them when you should be listening to what they are saying. Because in this instance, like in so much of what you have written, you are wrong again. I bet if we take a vote of all the posters on this thread, you would be voted the dense one by a large margin.

Have a great night. Good luck to you.

I need to do a review. I got at least some of his gripes and he has gotten a dump from one who does't always do that.
Poster answers all of you by reviewing what he had been thinking, I get that, and then he deals with slammos.

He still is wondering, and I get that. Doesn't mean he is some perve, he would like to understand.

I'm no rescuer of posters, but I see his inquiry.

Osso - why don't you introduce this guy to the gal who likes construction workers/

They sound like a pair meant for each other, personality disorders and all.

This guy may have stuff going on. I'm not so sure of that as a generalization.

Some reason you need to make fun of him?

You take him as personality disordered from afar?

Stop that.

It may be nothing you did. She may have realized the relationship wasn't what she wanted, and she lacks the skills to be honest and tell you. Since you are not very invested in this relationship, I would just chalk it up to non-compatibility. As far as the trolls here, just ignore them. There are trolls everywhere anymore.