@Germlat,
Like I said, it becomes insanity trying to guess, and in that, you come up with a million thoughts...
But, "he" thought you had a lover, a woman... .Why?
Ok, if you believe that he "knows" you were there all the way, didn't care what so ever about losing everything, encouraged him to do it again with your help, then it's not about you losing your job, or business or what ever it was that you were doing.
And, he again. Is asking for sex, sure it's not spontaneous as you wish for, but when someone asks? 1) They want it from you and 2) They feel that they have to ask.
Again, why?
And, honestly the answers should come from him so you know where you are heading.