My dwindling place in my family

Hope you have better luck than me trying to get my family to come to a neighbouring town!

kicky -- it was in my thirties that I began to feel that where I lived was "home," and not the home of my parents. It was nice to visit them and all, but I was always relieved to get "home." Perhaps you are going through the same transition.

Try to get your parents to visit you instead.

Great point, Eva.

Kicky - you did the best you could keeping your mouth shut. I went to my husband's family on a vacation and although for the most part they are very caring loving people, they are strongly Christian and even have some relatives that are very racial. I was sitting inside with them having a some what pleasant conversation when one of them said some racial slur. I looked at my husband and could see the panic look in his face. I decided against saying anything and at an opportune time, decided this might be a good time to go check on my daughter. After that I spent more time with the children as they made more sense to me than some of the things the adults were saying.

Maybe you could request next time to sit at the kiddies table? Or while you are visiting, any old friends you could look up - at least spending some time out with them could make the trip a little less painful.

I recommend bible bashing. The best way to deal with someone who has views which contradict your own is to show them a verse in the bible which contradicts them.

kicky

She sounds like a nightmare! I cannot believe your whole family is sucked in. You might be surprised to find that you're not the only one who feels overwhelmed by her. Yes, see your parents minus her, next time. Make a special trip, not a whole family reunion.

Does every family have an overbearing sister in law? I sit with a glazed look over my eyes most of the time I'm near her. I can't believe the audacious stuff she spouts.
I walked out of the family Easter dinner this year. I think it will be along time before I venture into those shark infested waters for a while.

In laws sure shake up the dynamics of the
family.

I think you are probably on to something there, Eva. I do think it is a transition that I'm going through. That is definitely part of it. And the other part is that my sister-in-law is everything that I can't stand in people. I don't feel so bad about it anymore though. I'm back "home" now, so I am feeling okay. My parents do visit me every once in a while, and that is good. It's not so bad usually. I just hope that it was just a particularly bad visit, and not a sign of the way things are going to be in the future. I don't think it is.

Thanks everyone for your support and suggestions. you guys are pretty damn cool in my book!

Mid life crisis?


(Sorrykc, you are busy in this thread and SOMEBODY's gotta play the smart ass

Resurrection Sunday?

Run. Fast and far.

Rename yourself "Forrest".

How DARE you!

That's MUCH better.

aww shucks, I love you guys

Oy, what horror stories!

I like my in-laws. I even like their parents and siblings (from what I know of them).

Sorry everyone. Seems to be a lot of family add-ons giving my friends trouble.

I like my in-laws too. I think we've been blessed, littlek.

I have only brothers-in-law. No parents-in-law. I know that my sisters get along, for the most part, with their parents-in-law.

Hopefully, Kicky, you will create your own family,
and be completely at home there!

oh lord... kicky jr.... could the world handle it?

And a group of very close, supportive friends can be as good a "family" as any!