how do i get close with her?

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theres a girl in grade 9 who i like and im in grade 10. I just cant talk to her all of the sudden cuz she dont know me very well and if i start conversation, she'll think im weird cuz im a stranger to her. so what should i do to get close with her? i really like her and i just cant stop thinking about her everyday..

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Do you have a mutual friend? Then use that as an intro for a discussion.

NOTE: you DO have to talk with her if you want it to work.

Say: "So you know _____? How do you know him? Isn't he funny?
or something like that.

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@PUNKEY,

btw im a shy guy infront of girls.. so whenever i talk with girls i blush or i cant speak well

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@trkgbi,

You can decide if you have the courage to do this NOW or wait until later (maybe years) and learn how to talk to girls. In the meantime all kinds of girls and opportunities are passing you by.

There's nothing wrong with being shy. But if you let chances slip away, you will regret it.

Do you have a sister? If so, you know how to talk with girls.

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@PUNKEY,

yes i have a sister but for me shes like a boy.

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@trkgbi,

How do you know the girl? do you do sports with her? take a course with her? do you have any mutual friends?

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@ehBeth,

i always pass her class during lunch time, i see her like more than 20 times a day in sch0ol. and i just met her like that.. i liked her since last year.

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@trkgbi,

Do you ever say hi as you're passing her?

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@ehBeth,

i dont even dare to talk to her. it makes me nervous like crazy. even my phone wallpaper is her pic..

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@trkgbi,

Just say hi the next time you pass her or see her somewhere.

Nothing more.

Just hi.

I used to work with a young man who was also very very shy around young women. I had him start by saying hi to one random person he saw a day. Maybe someone who was on the elevator when he got on or the cashier at the store. It took a little while but once he got used to the idea that it was normal to greet people he was able to go on to saying hi to women he was interested in.

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@trkgbi,

You don't dare?

What do you think will happen? she will hit you?

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@ehBeth,

if i suddenly say hi, she'll probably think im weird. and say hi how? while walking by? or what?

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@trkgbi,

As you're walking by, look at her, say hi, keep walking.

After you've done that for a few weeks it'll seem normal.

Practice by saying hi to other people.

You do realize it is normal to greet people you see a lot, right? It is weirder not to say hi.

It's not necessarily the beginning of a relationship - it's normal human interaction.

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@ehBeth,

i do say hi to many people. but she dont know about me, she'll think weird if i suddenly say hi and walk by..

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@trkgbi,

trkgbi wrote:

i see her like more than 20 times a day in sch0ol.

if you see her 20 times a day, she sees you 20 times a day

one of you has to say hi

it would be weird if you didn't

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@ehBeth,

what i mean is while walking by. never seen face to face for long time.

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@ehBeth,

like sometimes inside the elevator with full of people, sometimes when lining up in the cafeteria, sometimes in library, but usually in the hallway.

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@trkgbi,

so lots of opportunities to say hi a few times a week

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@ehBeth,

or say "hey, how's it goin?"

That's not weird, just an acknowledgement you see each other 20 times a day.

Then transition to hi.....then transition to saying something like "hey, have you seen so and so (someone you both know)? I've been looking for him/her" Even if she say "no" you're talking to her.

After that, you've officially talked to her, and can go from there.

That's a build up to a real conversation if I ever heard one.

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@ehBeth,

she dont even know me, if i just come to her and say hi, she'll think im weird.

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