@BillRM,
I changed the title since that's not what I originally meant. I can't control my wife, but I can control how much I'm willing to let her get away with. For example, I can get a divorce, however, I'm trying to avoid that. Anyway, the one-way of sending flowers is not the same as two-way e-mail communication.
I honestly don't know how trustworthy she is. When she talks about stuff she has no problems embellishing things sometimes to the point of becoming a lie. I remember when we were first dating in New York I was waiting for her to get off of work and the mail guy came in. I don't know how we go into this conversation but it was about cheating.
He was of the mindset that if you are going to cheat on someone you break up with them first, but she took the attitude that no one is a saint. However, that's the only time she held that mindset, and once we started getting more serious she was purely anti-cheating.
She has a girls-night-out clan that she hangs out with that I'm ok with. But a week or two ago I went out with them for the first time and one of the girl's brothers was there. He basically pointed out that the last time he hung out with them that my wife is quite the partier. He also asked when we got married. And then said that was before we were married. Then his justification for asking about us being married was he was sure how to refer to something as. I don't know if he was talking about our last name or what, because at this point I was kind of a deer in headlights, confused. It was all quite strange but it didn't seem to bother my wife. She just laughed and asked, "why are you blowing up my spot".