She still loves me but is marrying someone else.:'(

True. But that's just one example jbeme. Even if pregnancy is not in the picture, she may hitch her wagon to the other guy (for many possible reasons) and keep her 'reserve' if she can.

Just give it time. If it is meant to be, things will work out. Trust me, I understand the concern of others saying that you need to move on. You can do so, but again, if it is meant to be, love will find a way.

Trust me, I was madly in love with a person I met in college. We lost touch and I guess you can say we also had an on and off again relationship. We loved each other, yet she also married someone else. Years later, even after of my moving on, we crossed paths again and I learned that she was divorced. Things picked up soon after and it has been like we never separated (the love is still strong). Of course we had a lot to discuss about the past and how we hurt each other and I'm sure if you and Sara get back together, you will too. But I can't stress enough to let time take its course and be willing to work things out and move forward if that opportunity becomes available

Good Lord (3 year old post) and I'm still here!!! Thought I read that somewhere before, in, my, past

It's easier said than done "forget about her, move on" and other things that are actually very difficult to do. So my advise would be do what your heart says. I have a very long story with my husband and lots of people told us to forget about each other, proving it will never work for us. But still we're happily married for 3 years already, having a sweet child)

Sounds like you are just back up. Make no mistake, if she loved you, she would be with you. Run.

I really believe that if something is meant to be it will happen. I know you've already been waiting a long time but if you love her it doesn't matter how long it takes. I think you should tell her you're going to give her some time to think about it and if you don't care that she has a child let her know that it won't get in the way of anything and you'll do whatever you can to help. Trust me, if it was meant to be it will happen but until then try not to stress over it too much.

Yes, she isn't "mature" enough for you.

Talk with her and get the opinions about the relationship between you and her.

You will definitely get good result from it.

From the story of bonobology

"She still loves me but is marrying someone else.:'("

Shes a piece of ****. Move on.

If she really loved you she would have never been with your friend nor had his baby. She's playing games. I'd drop her all together and not even keep her as a friend. That's disrespectful to you and how you feel. There's plenty of other people out there without that kind of baggage. She had her chance with you and she didn't take it. Now she has a baby by someone else, and your ex friend on top of that? Heck no to that!

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@bernsky
Move on! Stop wasting your time on the woman who is married and have a child too. You can find much better than her, but if you still want to be with her then you may become the reason for their upcoming troubles in their married relationship, which I think you don't want to be

Well I certainly hope he has moved on since this thread was started over 4 years ago.

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I say, make your move and give it your all. If she doenst choose you, move on. Dont worry about the baby daddys feelings because he didnt give a damn about your feelings.

For someone who posted this over four years ago? I seriously hope he or she still isn't dealing with this existential crisis.

She loves you, fine, what`s the problem with that? We should all of us love as many people as possible, love is harmless, love is genuine unconditional friendship Now, erotic love, common romantic love, self love, these are all an entirely contrary proposition. Try converting this so called love to actual love/selfless caring, then see how you get on.

hear that

So sorry to hear that, but the most important thing is do you love her like she is the only girl you could live with for rest of your life? if yes then you can wait but in my opinion, if she felt the same love about you the should not have left you in past. now if she returns then it's only for your love and yes she deserves a second chance. love itself is beyond anyone's understanding you can understand your love properly so take your time decide what is best for you talk to her about this if no response then i am sorry to say you have to let her go, i am not advising you to move on because if you loved her then it's not possible to move on but you can let her go. the final call will be yours.

You can start definitely your relationship again after her divorce with his husband. It is good you still love her and you know each other very well. So, your relationship may go well. But remember, don't try to force her to get divorced.

She does NOT sound worth the risk either. Firstly you mention school etc so my guess until I know better is that one or both of you are fairly young. That's the first issue to desl with. Also , why did you not marry her before he did? A child that is not yours is a heavy responsibility (even if its yours it not easy) for a variety of reasons including visitation rights etc. There is also the issue that she is married & any kind of divorce (assuming she wants that) can get pretty ugly. Then if she gets a divorce how do you know that she is not on the rebound. All of these things a hard on the emotions so before doing anything I would ask myself if I am prepared to make the sacrifices required but even so its a hell of a lot to take on at a young age. I would run in the opposite direction!