@icy21,
Here is what I gather from your husband:
It is said people who post alot on Twitter/Facebook/Instagram have intimacy issues.
People who don't understand this concept might cheat
When this happens to a cheater he never realizes that the attraction he feels towards that person results from the hormones that are released in his body but instead he thinks that he loves that new person more than his spouse.
Cheaters might say something like:
•I experience new feelings when i see her that i don't experience with my wife anymore
•I am more motivated to see him than to see my husband
•I never seem to get bored of her
When we formulate these terms scientifically they become as follows:
•I forget how those chemicals felt like, with that new person i can feel them again
•More chemicals are pumped into my body when i see him than when i see my husband
•i don't think those chemicals will ever stop being released (the same thought that he first got when he married his wife)
This is also why he is addicted to drugs. He has problems with addiction.
You are doing somewhat the same thing except instead of cheating, you party, I guess because it makes you feel young and free again. You and your friends also crave attention which is why you all take alot of pictures of eachother. You taking pictures = your husband posting in Twitter/FB/Instagram. Maybe you both crave this attention because you are not receiving it or providing it to eachother.
Are you trying to numb your pain with all of the partying? You both are trying to numb your feelings rather than dealing with them. Your husband portraying that you all are a perfect family is only to cover up what he is really feeling.
Sounds like you all need to pay more attention with eachother. You both have an intimacy/attention issue but show it in different ways. Sounds like you all need a counselor.